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writes:hello, i'm 15 and so is she, recently her dad left and she's been having a lot family trouble. But the last few months she has lost a massive amount of weight, people at school have been saying stuff. She constantly gets stared at and all our friends are really worried. How can i talk to her about it? Please help me she's my best friend.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 July 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you all so much, i confronted her tonight and she burst into tears telling me how relieved she is! She seems much better, thank you all for your help, i feel like i have a best friend again :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 July 2010): I'd talk to her and NOT get any adults involved could make her worse.Just remind her that you are her best friend and that she is very dear to you and you are worried about her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 July 2010): I agree with the two other responses.
You'll need more help than just yourself, probably. Maybe tell a trusted adult, your mom, someone! If you talk to her about it, she might feel like you're all ganging up on her and she will probably be angry or embarrassed or something.
Eating disorders need professional help, usually.
Good luck!
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reader, person12345  +, writes (17 July 2010):
 I think there's no way to talk to her about this without being awkward. You need to just take her aside and say, "You know I care a LOT about you. I know you've been having some family trouble, and I've noticed you've lost a lot of weight. I really want to be there for you and help you out. I'm really concerned for you." She'll probably get defensive and angry first, but if you really care you'll stick with it. If you suspect she has an eating disorder you are not equipped to handle it yourself. Have you thought about going to the school counselor and expressing your concern to him/her?
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