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writes:my question is not any complicated I just want to know was I right or wrong...so let me first tell you about my life....I am a student and I am not ready for any kind of relationship and there is a girl whim I met in social networking website who is mad at me she loves me very extensively and of course I like her and even have some feelings for her but her love towards me draws a big bad impact on my studies and I don't want it to happen I told her all about it but she always used to say I don't know I just want to be with you and I clearly said her don't get too deep in love and I told her that I am leaving her then I will be back and I promised her but she always says that she can't live without me...i am 99.9% sure that tomorrow there is no future of ours so we broke up last night but she messaged me right know asking about me but I always get frustrated after realising about her don't know y now what should I do because these are some years which I have to study hard for my carrier and she is coming as a barrier in my life what should I do oleate helo me out of here I am really going mad I don't want her to get hurt otherwise otherwise I would have left her very much earlier now what should I do ??
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reader, Mark1978  +, writes (17 June 2014):
 Okay, deep breath.
You are under no obligation to see anyone, stay with anyone or do something you don't want to just because she is in love with you. You don't have to give up your studies or be distracted from them if you don't want to. If you want to finish a relationship then that's your choice. She wont like it, will be hurt and upset, but hey she will get over it. You are both young - this situation may seem so intense NOW but in the future you will look back to your late teens, early twenties, and realize you were a couple of young people finding your feet in the world relationships. She says NOW that she cant live without you. Most of us think like that of our partners/crushes when we are young. But in truth in a few months/years you will both be two very different people anyway.
Most of us get our hearts broken a few times, its what makes us more experienced, mature and sensible.
However, if you are not ready for a relationship, its best not too let girls get too close. Flirting, using social networking sites to find females, and so on is something to be done carefully. If you wish to concentrate on your studies do so without playing at dating and then expecting a girl to vanish into thin air when it gets too serious.
Mark
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