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writes: Dear Cupid, I have this friend. Let's just call her B. B and I have been friends for practically our entire lives. We love each other like sisters, and she's one of those people that I'll be totally sad to leave when high-school graduation rolls around. We've had our share of fights (and done a little bit of backstabbing here and there), but all in all, we've had more good times than bad. Well, here's the problem. Today after school, B's boyfriend (we'll call him T), ended the relationship. She was not at all upset by this, as she was planning to end things, anyway. She was actually approaching him just so she could tell him that she wanted to break up, but he said it first. I know what you're thinking. You're thinking, "Well, if they're both okay with ending the relationship, what's the real problem?" Well, let me tell you what the real problem is. The real problem is that B has been talking to her ex-boyfriend (who will be known as J) a LOT lately. The worst part is that J happens to be my crush. And now that she's single again, I'm afraid that their friendly little phone conversations are going to lead to...you know, him asking her out. In fact, I can almost state for a FACT that they're going to get back together. This has already happened, like, four times in the past year or so...and each time, I got hurt because of it. I don't want to go through all of that again. It's not going to take much for it to happen again. I mean, B is absolutely BEAUTIFUL...and I'M absolutely...not. There's not a doubt in my mind who he's going to go for. Any idget can see that he's still in love with her. And what's worse is that by thinking that she's what he needs, J is completely in denial. I mean, back in December, B USED HIM TO GET BACK AT ANOTHER GUY!!! The only reason she ever did what she did at his half-sister's birthday party (and everyone else that was there knows this, too) was because she was mad at her current boyfriend (J2) for not talking to her for about a month, and she knew that if she got all close to J, someone would run and tell J2 (which they did). Like I said before, I don't want to go through this again. What should I do?~Sarah~
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reader, bodylotion +, writes (31 March 2006):
 Well you shouldn't really bother.She isn't dating him or anything is she?Just go for it and explain to your freind that you like him.Mabe he likes you or mabe he doesn't but don't break you relationship up between your freind over a crush.Hope it all works out the wzy you want it to.
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reader, tux  +, writes (31 March 2006):
 well what will you get out of keeping them apart? If you do try to keep them apart it may turn into a bigger mess than what it is.. You possibly will lose your friend and still only be a person who has a crush on the guy who might just find Z. I would wait it out or find someone else.. if it's too much find a new friend. I know J may be in denial and not see what B is doing to him.. but there is a saying that Love is blind which actually was misinterpretted in the first place. What they meant to say was that Love blinds. we tend not to see the many imperfections and cover them up with delusions. Eventually the delusions clear away and we see the light.
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