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writes:Hi, I asked this a few days ago but didn't get much of a response so thought I'd re-post it.Me and my girlfriend have been together for 9 months, always got on really really well. She has a son and we both decided that I would be his dad after about half a year as his real dad doesn't want anything to do with him. But, about a week ago she suddenly started being really distant and a little cold with me, 1 word messages etc. When I asked why this was after a few days she told me she just has a lot on her mind and that she'd rather keep it to herself. I asked her to at least tell me if it was about me but was met with the same answer. The next day, I went round, it was a bit strange at first but before long we were laughing, talking for ages and just getting on really well. But 2 days later she's gone back to being distant.What is going on?? I'm going out my mind but at the same time I can't keep asking her. What is going through her mind? And what should I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, tennisstar88  +, writes (16 February 2011):
 Not to sound rude, but probably why you didn't get much answers is because you should be asking her what is going on. We're not mind readers, and you obviously know this girl so you would have a much better idea of what's going on than us.
All I can do is speculate. The only thought I have is perhaps she's not ready for you to become the boy's father, it's a rather big step she may not be ready for. Not to mention you have only been together for 9 months, stepping up to be a father for a boy you hardly know is moving extremely fast. Or the real father has come back into the boy's life and she doesn't know how to tell you. I think it's more of my first thought.
My suggestion is you ask her, or based off how your relationship has been these last 9 months you can come to your own conclusion.
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