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writes:I have met this truely amazing girl, the problem is she is sleeping with someone else, she swears its not a relationship, she also says that she likes me but every time i think i'm getting somewhere she pushes me away with some lame reason. I really dont know what to do. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 January 2008): This happened to me except he didn't tell me he was sleeping with her. Some people change the words around but the meaning is still the same. This girl wants to have her cake and eat it. Do you want to be the only one? If so, find someone who is prepared to sleep with you and you only.
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reader, AR +, writes (2 January 2008):
well... you have to ask yourself what you want out of your relationship with her. it doesnt sound like she wants to be attached to anyone. and you cant push her to be in an exclusive relationship. so if that is what your are looking for i would look somewhere else. but talk to her if you havent and tell her how you feel about her sleeping with someone else. if she doesnt stop then i would walk away...
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 January 2008): Im sorry but this sounds rather dud to me. There could be however a few things going on.
Yes she could be playing you, not really taking any relationship seriously and enjoying the attention she is getting or she could find that she is scared of entering a brand new relationship and just carries on the sexual one because it is what she knows.
If you want this relationship to go anywhere, i am afraid you need to be firm. Be direct but NOT aggressive and talk to her telling her you want this relationship to work but until she gives up this other man and starts working with you you are going to have to rethink this relationship.
It may sound hard, but this is only going to hurt you more by clinging on to something that might not be there to begin with. If she has got some closeness issues she may be shy and feel weary of telling you so you have to be willing to listen and accept any problem she has and offer to help her.
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reader, sexyirish  +, writes (2 January 2008):
what you gotta do is let her come after you basically giving her an ultimatum if she doesnt show you the response you like time to move on bro
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