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male
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:My girlfriend and I have been together just over 5 months. We started out fighting and when things are good, there great. We found out she is pregnant, and at first things were okay. We found out after we had a blow out and said it was done for good. She used to cry at all our fights and want to fix it within a day or two. Most of our fights were over petty things and this last one was the same. We had a small argument and I walked away to let her calm down. I came back an hour later and it started to the point where we were looking like we were over. We fixed it and went out. While out she got pissed off at me and I demanded to leave and since I was driving we did so. She than told me it was over and hated me. She was crying and I asked why and she said because she wanted to be out of my car. I dropped her off and the next day contacted her about the child which turned into a fight about us. I left her alone and then the next day another fight about us. We talked on and off for a few days and at first she said that she didn't love me anymore, and that she only wanted to stay civil for the baby. I said I respect your wishes and that was it. She didn't hear from me for 8 hours so she tried to make small talk. I told her I couldn't keep doing this and we only need contact about the baby. She flipped out so I called her and she was just angry. She called me back 30 minutes later and was hysterical crying and her outlook changed to she doesn't want this but everything added up and she couldn't be with me, maybe when the baby was born. I left it alone and the next day sent her flowers for making her cry. We talked civil all night and she kept saying she wanted this and such. We were to meet up the following day to get closure. She turned that night into a fight because I said she seemed relieved to be over. The next day came around and we met up for our talk. Things got emotional and I left saying my goodbye. She invited me to stay and watch tv and I declined. An hour later she made sure I was okay and we talked for a few minutes and she stopped answering so I left it alone. Another 8 hours goes by and because she knows I am out she texts me to say goodnight and hopes I am having fun and such. The following morning it turned into another fight about us and she just wanted to be alone to do what she wants and such. I left her alone for an hour and found a reason to message her. It went on for some time and got nowhere. I stopped and didn't say anything to her. She waited until she knew I was going out and started a fight with me and wouldn't say why it was provoked. I left it alone and the next morning she was flipping on me for going out with my friends while she was home. Told me I should stay home like she does and not go drinking. I left it alone so a fight wouldn't start. 8 hours later she messages me to let me know she is still going to keep me in the loop about the dr in the morning. I knew it wasn't a baby dr so I ignored it. 10 minutes later she calls me saying that she was worried because I didn't answer and I basically said I can't do it and refrain from messaging me unless its about the baby. She started to get upset and hung up on me and then started saying she needs time and she misses me but needs her time. And then started going into things about the baby. We left it be and she was putting up facebook status' that seemed like they were about me. Then she put one up that she was sick. So i texted her to make sure all was okay. She was very standoffish and made me feel like shit. She says there is nobody else and just wants to be alone. Any help???
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reader, sex_expert +, writes (16 November 2010):
this chick is crazy you need to stay as far away from her as possible and ONLY talk to her about the child. If she starts to get off the subject of the baby then try to get her back on the subject or hang up on her
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 November 2010): Dude seriously cut her out. The most important thing in this situation is the health of the baby, do you agree? Then what effect do you think this constant back and forth stress is doing to the baby. She's supposed to be taking it easy dude. I mean seriously.
You can't keep responding to her crap, you know she's hormonal emotional etc, that's normal, she's pregnant but you're seriously making the situation worse by playing along.
Stop saying one thing and then doing another, do not respond to anything unless it's about the baby, do not keep playing this game. You're acting stupid, you're actually putting your child at great risk by playing along with her crazy hormones. Stop it, stop it now because you're actually putting your own child in this situation, everything she feels is what your child feels, you're not just making her life miserable because while she cries your baby cries. Do you understand? It's not even out of the womb yet and it's having to deal with emotional turmoil.
http://www.womenshealthcaretopics.com/preg_stress.htm
You need time away from her, she needs time away from you, she needs to relax and start leveling out a bit, you're making this situation really bad by responding when you're the only one at the moment that has the power to solve this, so do that.
You have to do forget about you and her, you have to focus solely on what's best for the child and at the moment this back and forth mindgames bullshit has the potential to seriously harm your child. Just stop.
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