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male
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51-59,
anonymous
writes:I have been in a relationship with a woman for two years now, she wants us to move in together, but i dont feel ready, thing is she is very sociable when we go out to pubs parties etc she goes up to the bar for drinks goes outside for a cig on her own and people men women warm to her very easily because she laughs a lot, its almost like she is flirting yet when people, especially women, talk to me she goes in a mood saying i dont give her enough attention, this is not true because i am always complementing her and she,s always the focus of my attention, I just feel that she has loads of freedom in this relationship yet I have none, she even expressed her dislike at me making a cup of tea for a female employee that cleans computers for me sometimes, any ideas out there. I am 47 my partner is 23.
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reader, followtheblackrabbit  +, writes (31 October 2010):
 That's quite a difference! And so, she's at a different level of thought and maturity...she may feel then that it's ok for her to go to pubs, drink, and talk to people she wants because of her youth and you, because you're older and have been there and that, can afford to give her your full attention and forget about others. (Just a theory). The issue at hand here is that she is possesive and jealous and wants to follow through with this immense step you're not ready for. Moving in with a partner entails a lot of trust, patience, and understanding. You don't feel ready for a reason. A relationship is a partnership, 50/50 and at this moment, your relationship is uneven. Try and talk to her about your thoughts, how uncomfortable it is to have her be exempt from the "rules" she set up. She can flirt and party, but you can't even make tea for a co-worker? It can't work that way. The relationship is not mature enough yet to handle this step. Not at all. If you give in now, I guarantee that you will regret it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 October 2010): if you're not ready to do it,dont do it. if you move in together before you're ready
will probably start to resent her. ive been there. after 2 yrs with my one of my exes, i gave himan ultimatum-we move in together or i was leavn. he didnt want to loose me so he let me move in with him. after that it was downhill. we're not together today and thats y. so if you're not ready,dont do it
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