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writes:I'm 18.. have been with my 16 year old girl georgina for 4 months now...i've never felt this way about anyone..i love her so much. she has a son who just turned 1...who sees his dad every weekend. a month or so ago i told her he feels like my own..and he does...but recently i've been seeing his dad in him...reminding me he isn't mine. Gina sais she wishes he was mine...but last night i told her he can never be mine...however much i would like him to be. Noe she's wanting to end it because she said he will always be part of her life...which i knew.i wouldn't have let myself fall in love with her unless i was sure i wanted to take on her son aswell. I can't lose her.please help.anyone. :( Reply to this Question
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reader, TELLULAH +, writes (19 March 2007):
 Hi,
Its a Massive responsibility, taking on another mans child. Yes he will always be part of her life, but that doesn't mean that you cant be as well. Tell her how you feel, and how much you love them both. So what if he reminds you of his dad, why cant he have his dad and you. Children need love, and not to be let down. At that young age, its important to have routine and stability. Children are like sponges, they soak up everything as they grow older. Ask yourself if you are really ready to take this on. You are only young yourself, and the last thing a child needs is for a man to come into his life and then go when he feels he has had enough.
I am not saying you would do this, but maybe she has thought about it. Dont forget, she has no choice, he is her baby, and she will stick by him through thick and thin.
I think if you have any doubts at all that you cant love this child as your own,even though he see's his dad. Dont go there.
But if you really do love them as much as you say, well!! she is a very lucky young lady.
I really hope it works out for you, I am sure with patience it can XXX
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