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51-59,
anonymous
writes:i have a girlfriend who i stay with at night's.. i do her yard work dishes and laundry..alway;s helping her out fixing things at her place. i dont live ther tho..right know im unemployed and she want's me to help pay her bill's.even tho she went out and bought a new car, which has put her on a tight budget. then some guy at her work is texting her. she says their just friend's. also she complain's about are sex life. im stressed out . can you tell me what the hell you think of this .
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 August 2010): You sound like you're in a bit of a slump (it happens to the best of us). What you need to worry about is you right now - improving your skills to get a job. Once you get that, you'll start to feel a lot better about your situation and things will improve.
For the time being, I'd suggest telling your girlfriend to lay off you for a while as you actively work on the job hunt (i.e. tell her you can't do ALL of the yard work, dishes, laundry or help pay the bills). But do show her you're trying to find work - if you don't, you'll be in the 'dog house' for sure.
And for the guy at her work texting her, just be cool with it (it may actually be work related). Ask some indirect questions about her work to get some more info (casual stuff like "oh are you guys working on a project together? Really? Tell me more").
Lastly, when it comes to sex, just be open with her and tell her you're under a lot of stress with trying to get your work-life worked out - stress has been known for giving guys problems in the bedroom. If she really loves you, she'll understand.
But once again, when you get that job, your life will become in sync again (stress gone, sex better, other guy out of the picture).
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