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writes:I recently asked a question anonymously about my girlfriend, we have been together 3 yrs and she has been very abusive,she use to hit her mom and now me. I say i love you always, she might say it once in awhile. I'm on a roller coaster i need help she don't like whats for dinner she gets pissed and throws it, if im sleeping because i work 3rd shift she will hit me in the ***5. Well u know then she gets madder because i flip out when she does that, if i go to sleep on the couch she will say get the hell in here or just flip out when she tells me to sleep on the couch. There is this jeep i want to get but she says i cant or i can live in it.! She constantly takes her engagement ring and throws it! if i go to leave she flips and says well you don't love me if your leaving, she tells me she hates me more than she loves me. I care about her im just really messed up right now please help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 July 2007): She doesn't seem to respect you as a human being let alone love you. One day of such treatment is too long to endure let alone three years! You need to get out of this abusive relationship now. Not only is she in need of therapy but you could use some as well to break out of the victim mentality of "Sure he/she hits me but I'm still loved!" This is not healthy and you need to learn how to respect your self so this will not happen again.
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reader, Jamer70  +, writes (22 July 2007):
 Well it sounds like she hasnt deep anger issues at the people who love her and it seems she need therapy and anger management classes too calm her down. This may be hard to get her to do but she needs it and soon before she pushes everyone away and ends up alone.You sound strong enough too stick around while she treats you like this and most people would have left already. If she throws your engagement ring on the floor in my opinion thats the ultimate disrespect of your relationsip and as it does stand for your unity and love and she treats it like crap which is wrong.Unless she gets help or learns a huge lessons people are gonna leave her and if she continues to treat you like crap i would leave aswell as its not worth it.I think in this case she needs too help herself by talking to a therapists and finding out her problems and getting help for them. and soon
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