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writes:I had what was supposed to be a one-night stand with this woman i know and she is on the rebound from leaving her husband (who treated her terribly) and a 16 year marriage. I fell madly in love with her and she fell in love with me nobody has made me as happy as she has. we've been together for about 2 months and now she says she is confused because she is in love with me but thinks she still loves her husband. And now she says she wants time to get her head on straight and be friends and single for a while. She says we might get back together, but the uncertainty is tearing me apart. What do I do??
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reader, BrokenHeart8721 +, writes (13 April 2007):
BrokenHeart8721 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI want to thank Royofthe Rovers and the anonymous female reader for their advice it has helped me very much, and for anyone else who wants to send me some advice on this. This is the first time i have ever put my problem out for others to read and help me, and to be honest i was scared of what people might tell me because i am a shy, sensitive and emotional person. But once again i say thanks!!
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reader, BrokenHeart8721 +, writes (13 April 2007):
BrokenHeart8721 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionit has been 24hrs since i posted my dilemma,and i didnt contact her in anyway and just now she called me and told me she has been thinking about me all day. She also said that she feels less confused and is pretty sure she doesnt want to be with her husband anymore. I asked her if we could hang out this weekend and she said it was very possible given the plans she already made allow it. Was I wrong to ask this of her so soon? And at the end of the call she told me twice "I love you" after the first time i kind of hesitated to tell her the same for fear of letting myself get hurt some more, but i did tell her i loved her both times.
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reader, Royofthe Rovers  +, writes (12 April 2007):
 Give her the time she needs. You have to aknowledge what she is going through and how she feels about leaving someone she was married to.All you can do is wait, however frustrating, painful it might be it is the best thing to do. She will respect you for doing this and will give her the time to really evaluate her situation without too much interference.She may decide to try again with the marriage, but can you blame her? Marriage is a big commitment and there must be feelings there which wont just go away easily. Just give her the patience she needs right now and just keep yourself occupied to stop your mind going overdrive.All the best..
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 April 2007): This is sad,I don't think that there is anything you could do that will change her mind. She is hurting you and I hope that she knows what she has done or doing to you. But, you said that she was on the rebound, I know that deep down inside you were hoping that she stays with you.The only thing, that I think you could do is this : remember the saying " if you love something set it free, if it comes back to you it is yours, if not, it never was " ? You just have to set her free, I know that it is killing you inside, I know because, I am going through a similar situation, but it is all you could really do and just hope for the best. You love this person, I believe in love strongly. Hope that she comes to her senses and makes the right decision.
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