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male
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36-40,
*dyb
writes:Hey iv been with my girfriend for nearly 2 years i love her very much and she feels the same way about me. we spend alot of time together however we still make time for hobbies lk i got to the gym 5 times a week n she does her own thing with her friends. but we always meet up after we done our own things everyday n we go to my flat or out in the car she always stays the nite.....however if her friends ask her to go out on the weekend she will argue with me perposly so she has an excuse to go out insted of telling me she wonts to go out which ii dont have a huge problem with as long as its not every weekend as i like to spend time with her on the weekend.....we went thru a stage where she wud argue with me every friday to go out on the saturday then shed fone me on the sunday sayin sorry i always forgive her after giving her a hard time for a couple of hours she always prmises not to do it again but she always oes but a month ago she promised never to argue with me over it again band jus tell me inted. however she hasnt sed once she is goin out n spent every weekend with me but now yet again she went out with her frineds on the monday wen i had the gym nn argued with me insted of meeting me n she went out yet again and the place she goes is horrible its fll of shavs and drugs but her friends love it there n i hate the thought of her being there coz i know boys try it on with ehr n i dno if i trust her not to do anythign wwen shes drunk and with her frineds the worst thing is every time we go out its always on bad terms as she caauses an argument as an excuse to go out im on my last legs now i dont know wot to to iv told her time n time again tht ill finish with ehr if she keeps leaving me to go out inted of jus sayin to me she goin out and i dont lk her goin to tht club at all naywhere else i dont mind please give me sum advise please
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (22 August 2008):
Well when she starts an argument just smile and kiss her and tell her that of course she can go out with her friends. It's only an argument if you argue back. If she says the sky is green say "have a great time, don't do anything to make me jealous haha"
If you absolutely refuse to get into an argument and make it clear you know what little game she's playing and find it funny then she might feel silly enough to stop.
As for not trusting her when she is drunk / not liking the club she goes to, well that is a separate issue.
It's up to you whether you finish with her but if you love her then try to make it work first.
Good Luck!! xx
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