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writes:i met this girl and is in love with her but we're just friends, we have been friends for quite some time. she had a bf when i met her and now they broke up few weeks ago. we talk a lot and lent her my shoulder to cry on. problem is, i really want to tell her about my feelings for her but i can see she's still inlove with the other guy. i get paranoid that she might go back to the guy who made her cry. should i wait? until when? help...thanks.
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reader, hannah76  +, writes (4 July 2011):
 Hello,
A tricky one here, you may have fallen into the friends zone. But you may not have. Don't start telling her how you feel. Wrong move. Just be there for her and do what you are doing. Don't do it to just try to get her as a girflfriend, just act like you are doing. Things may naturally work for you but they may just be friends.
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reader, sammy1986 +, writes (4 July 2011):
i would give her time if you tell her how you feel now she may say yes but it may also be a rebound with her because you have been there for her just carry on being her friend and being there for her and in time when you think she is over her ex tell her how you feel she can only say no good luck
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reader, chickpea2011 +, writes (4 July 2011):
 Hi,
You should wait... When? Until your friend start feeling better. Right now its not the right time and break ups are hard to go through..
Remember, there's a reason why they broke up! I am sure she's not in love with him, but the attachment is the most difficult part. I am not sure how long you've been together, but he was someone that was part of her daily life and changes, no matter what its, are difficult to deal with and not to mention, nobody likes changes. Its the feeling of uncertanties and that its just hard, right?
Remember that, she's single and now you both have all the time in the world to be together... Don't pressure her because right now she's vulnerable.
Just be yourself... Be patient... Just make sure everytime you talk to her or spend time, make her feel happy and special.. Make sure you both have a good time and don't talk about her ex anymore.
Now, its a chance for you to have a new life together with her. A new chapter in your lives. No need to rush things. I am sure that if its meant to be, it will be.. What matters is that she's with you and enjoy each other, she'll come along, I am sure... :-)
Hope this helps and
Good luck!
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