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writes:Ok so Ive dated a girl on and off for almost six years. We were really in love, my niece was even named after her (crazy i know) of course we had ups and downs. This time she broke it off over some issues we had, she wanted me to leave her alone. At first it was really hard because I really did love her, but I stayed away and let her be. Its now been ten months, and the only times I contacted her was once for her birthday which she responded, and she text me after I had an accident and was in the hospital. Both times were cordial exchanges I left it at that. I still loved her I wanted her back but I knew she had begun dating this other guy so I didnt want to invade her space. Some of my friends date her cousins and my friend had a kid with her sister, so I would always hear about her. She was close to my friends and family so she would leave comments and stuff on thier profiles, which I didnt take as any message that she wants me back I looked at it as her just her simply being friendly. This one time she even posted a pic of me and her when we were together and I had really long hair, kind of like a joke and my friends commented saying you two should get back together stuff like that. I thought it was strange since she was still dating this guy and I didnt react to it even though it made me feel good. I have been positive about the whole situation, I began living my life going out meeting girls and what not but the truth is I still love her. So my friend that dates her cousin, would at times tell me like oh she wants to break it off with that guy, or she would tell her cousin its not going anywhere with this guy stuff like that. I looked at it as her rebound guy. I had always wanted to text her or reach out to her I mean to me she was the one. I just wanted to respect her. So my friend tells me that they offically became an item, I was really shocked I didnt expect that. My friend said his gf(her cousin) was like she was non chalant when they got together like yea were dating now.(im giving you all this info so you know what ive been hearing and whats been the situation) As I've said I wanted to reach out to her for the longest as a man in love I kinda was like I cant take this urge to reach out to her, so I did. I even told her cousin I was going to and she said if thats how you feel go for it I wont pick a side. So in the text I was sincere and respectful. Simply I said I had never texted her out of respect but not because I didnt care for her. I told her I found out she had a bf but nothing more about her having one. I said that if I was being honest I still loved her but understood she was in a differnt place in her life now and I hoped she wss happy. And that I wished her well and was like maybe one day we'll cross paths again, if not we simply wont. This text was not to invade her life, i never mentioned that i wanted her back or anything over bearing, I even showed her cousin the text and she said it was a nice text and actually very sweet. I even put for her not to reply just to take the message for what it was. So she doesnt text back till a week later, with a pretty mean text. Like she was going out of her way to make me feel bad, like thank for not contacting me then she would put a smiley face. Like my bf is awesome treats me so good I wouldn never hurt him, like all these things shes saying had nothing to do with my text like she was bragging about him for no apparent reason. I know her so well that I know she was doing this purposely. she even said Im so happy then again repeated Im not going to fuck up what I have, and I was like why is she even saying this when I never questioned her or anything, it was comical how much she was going out of her way to make her self sound happy. To me if she was really happy, if she did respond or not at all would be like ok yea I do thanks for understanding and leave it at that. I dont know so how do you guys see this? Is she really happy and just bragging, or are there hidden intentions. Once before she had acted similar in trying to make me jealous when we were on a break, but she never actually became an item? Opinions?
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (24 April 2012):
 It does sound like yes she was trying to hurt you and make you jealous, but again your timing for texting her was not very good because she had just got in to a new relationship so in her head she probably thinks it took her to get another man before you came back in to the picture. She probably picked your text up as you where only doing it now that you heard she has a boyfriend.
Yes her reply was hurtful and not very nice but I think it means you should leave it at that and just not contact her again. She knows now that you still have feelings for her. But maybe she is happy with this new guy. Only she knows. I think the best thing for you now is to leave her to live her own life and you do the same.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 April 2012): sweetheart, whateva you are going through is not because she is bragging and denying her feelings for you, it is due to the fact that you cannot get over her and move on with your life. the more you keep on being stuck to her the more heartache it is indeed gonna bring you. if you guys wer meant to be, you will find your way back to each other, just dont let your love for her ruin your chances of ever getting back together again... those that are patient gets the best rewards.
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