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writes:I'll make this short... I met this great girl and we hit it off. We had our first date a few weeks ago. It was all going well until we had sex - for some reason I couldn't perform, it wouldn't stay hard. She said it was okay, but the date ended kind of abruptly and I haven't heard from her since. We got along really well, we clicked better than I have with anyone in years so I was kind of surprised that she never returned my calls or texts.Recently I heard from mutual friends that she had gone around telling everyone about my poor performance, including that I had a small penis, and that was why she had been ignoring my calls. I'm devastated as this has gotten round to my entire social network and I can't look at people in the eye, I notice people talking behind my back. What's the best way to handle this situation?
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reader, Lexie88  +, writes (14 July 2010):
 She's not a great girl. It's obvious she saw nothing more in you than sex. And that's her problem, not yours.
I'd take strontiumdog's advice. Ignore all this, it will go away. Act like it does not matter to you and don't try to justify anything.
When my BF and I first started getting intimate, he had a few 'issues.' I never complained or blamed it on him or me. It was just how it was. We're past that now and I love him more than anything. If she was a person of integrity and if she wanted something real with you, this incident would not have mattered at all.
Thank your lucky stars that she's out of your life. You don't need someone like that. There are better women out there for you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 July 2010): Does your social network include friends? If so, they won't care, or at the least, they will think it's a rumor. Best thing you can do is ignore it. Those who matter wont care, and those that care dont matter.A similar thing happened to me (about the limp dick, not the size), but th ewoman was kind enough to just walk away, and not tell people. It was a moment of performance anxiety...she was supportive and said it happens to all guys. Any woman of integrity would not talk. Consider yourself lucky. Maybe date someone else in the same circle who can contradict the rumor?
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 July 2010): Either you have a group of fair weather friends or like to hang around shallow people or they wouldn't be whispering behind your back...true friends would not think one thing other than she is a vacuous bitch for spreading that rumor.What I would do is confront her about it, tell her how immature and cruel it was and ask her to kindly drop dead and stay away from you.What a jerk and she is stupid too, those kinds of things happen, she probably secretly feels you weren't attracted to her. If she is that dumb and insecure and then on top of it immature and talks negatively about people behind their backs, count yourself lucky that you found out before you wasted any time or emotional energy on her.After confronting her, just let it go, hold your head up and ignore it....people know she is a [Mod cleaned up language].
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