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writes:Hi. There is this girl that I really like, and that I have like for about 3-4 years. The only problem with this is that she just wants to be friends, and that I am like a brother to her. What I don't get is that she will flirt with me all the time, lay her head on my shoulder, hook arms with me, etc. Is there a way to get her to be more than friends?
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 March 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionPrevious poster, I have told her that I would like to risk it and that if anything happened, we would go back to being friends, because I'm not the type of person that does that kid of thing, unless, you know, she burned my house down, or killed my family.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 March 2010): She is probaby just worried that if u guys do go out it will change things. But it never hurts to take a risk. U should sit her down and talk about how u really like her and that u would like to risk it. Elplain how u guys can go back to being friends if it dosent wrk out. I hope I've helped a little bit. Wish u luck:-)
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reader, Blod  +, writes (7 March 2010):
 Some girls are just over friendly kind and flirt without realizing. If she sees you as a brother then it'd be very difficult to change the way she sees you. There's nothing you can do about it really.
Try explaining to her how she comes across. She's basically leading you on without realizing which is something she needs to stop doing for her sake as well as yours.
Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 March 2010): There isn't any way you can make her be more than friends with you unfortunately. The reason why she acts this way with you...she may be a flirty person. Or she may just be very friendly, and it comes across as flirty. She might also just feel very comfortable with you, and when she links arms with you and stuff, she is just being affectionate.
But it must be confusing for you! So I think you could try and explain to her that while you like her a lot, it is difficult for you when she does those things, because it gives you hope that she may want more, which hurts. She may not realise how her actions are making you feel, and if you tell her, she may think from now on and stop doing those things. Good luck. x
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (7 March 2010):
Of course she does all that stuff. It's fun and it makes her feel good when you respond.
She hasn't learned that you can't do that without leading a boy on and how hurtful it is.
Tell you think she's beautiful and you want to give things a go.
If she says no then tell her she needs to cut contact with you for a while and stop being flirty as it's not fair on you.
Good Luck!! xx
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