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30-35,
*ilveknifex
writes:she was in a 3 year realtionship the last year they basically had a revenge realtionship she wud say one thing, and he wud response wotrse and it kept going, over summer they basically both got tired of each other, especially her she was tired of him neglecting her, now shes is my girlfriend and im abosouletly in love with her, ive been taking it slow and being patient with her, i do lil things to make her smile. draw her pictures right her notes leave her messages bring her snacks while she is t work and even surprise her with candy, but she says now she thinks she rushed into are realtionship and she has been doing some serious thinking, its been idk maybe 5 months since her break , and i beleive she may be afraid of love, she say sshes still in love with this guy, who treated her like crap personally i dont think he deserves it.., but i think shes afraid of love to fall out of it and to even fall in love with me, ive been here for her, but lately she is getting aggravted that she still loves him and i love her and she wants to love me but she cant because she doesnt wwant to be in love with him and me and the same time, is she afraid, if so waht can i do...
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reader, Sometimes It Just Happens +, writes (26 December 2009):
Honestly, I was the girl in that exact relationship. The above not the one where you are caring. She likes you. She might even actually love you. But she cares more then she loves. She has this thing where she sees it as if you both break up, her heart is even more broken. She wants to love you, but fear is keeping her at bay.
Tell her your feelings, and tell her you trust her. That way, she knows you are there. Most of all reassure her, that as long as she is happy so are you.
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reader, blue_crush88  +, writes (13 January 2009):
She doesn't love you. She likes you. She loves her ex-boyfriend, and she always has. If she did not, she would not have participated in the "revenge relationship" or whatever you called it. i can tell you this from experience. Those types of things are exhausting emotionally and mentally and you would not bother doing it if you didnt care. you are her rebound guy and she feels bad for this. I'm sorry, but you sound like a sweet guy.. there will be lots of girls who are not still in love with their ex's.
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