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51-59,
*ockstock71
writes:I have recently broken up with my girlfriend (6 weeks ago) we often fought about things that other people put in her head and everytime we had a awesome weekend or night out she seemed to start a fight or go in a different direction. in may we had mothers day had a nice morning then tells me she is going to make life all about her and put herself first in every way and she will never follow a man again (we have been going out for over a year). we fight about it as im very confussed as to why im with her wanting a long term relationship. the following week i loose my job and i am upset and need some consolling which i dont really get she puts herself first and goes out with her friend. The next week end she is going to see me on the friday night but sends me a text saying - she is not looking forward to seeing me as she feels there is something between us ? .... i send her a text back saying well you must work it out and call me.... (i was extremely pissed off with her at this stage) the following day i call her 12 times ...no answer .... the next day i am totally confussed and write her an email (nothing horrible) i just pour out my heart and feelings and what i thought was happening and my confussion about not being able to contact her, i called her on the monday to explain ...she said she was just reading it and i asked her what her thoughts and feelings where? .... she didnt want to talk about it. I pretty much told her she couldnt care less about me but she did disagree but nothing more to add..... i asked her what happened over the weekend and she told me that she was feeling negative to what i was going through about loosing my job... and didnt want to be around me .... no she has gone through some bad times personally,financially and with work and i have always been there for her working out ways to fix her issues which worked .... this was the only time something bad has happened to me and i really needed her .... but she wasnt she just gave no indication that she cared about what was happening to me. She also gave no reaction at all to my email not "i agree" why ? , "we can work it out i want to be with you", "i dont want to be with you" ... NOTHING !!! WHY DID SHE NOT REACT to it ? ... i had asked her also if i could gat all my things from her and she promised to do so before i went overseas ... she didnt of course .... so without me knowing my mum sent her an email to get my things and they had bad words back a forth ... she reacted to that !!! ... i came back from overseas and found an email detailing what went on and how pissed off she was and how much it BOTHERED her that my mum tried to get my things back ..... NO SHE REACTED TO THAT BUT NOT MY HEART ?? WHY ??? she also mentioned that she didnt arrange my things before i went ...because .... "SHE NEEDED TIME ??? what does this mean also ??I really hope you can help me here as i really dont feel like i have closure on this although i have not contacted her since nor did i repy to her email.... hope you can give me some insite to her.Thanks Lockstock
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (2 July 2008):
I can't say who is to blame for it but this girl has stopped caring about you.
It sounds like she is using the age old tactic of being horrible to you so you'll break up with her. That way she doesn't have to feel guilty about dumping you.
Cut contact with her and move on. The relationship is over, and you can either walk off now or let her string you along for a while longer.
Good Luck!! xx
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