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51-59,
*r.Worry
writes:Can someone help me?How do you deal with having a flirty girlfriend?When guys hit on her she smiles instead of just telling them she's taken.I'm not saying be mean,I'm just saying politely say I'm sorry I'm taken.I'm really starting to think she's ashamed of me.3 people tried to set her up with guys just this week and she never tells any of them she already has a boyfriend.Is she setting up backup plans or what?When I'm in a realationship,I just tell women I'm taken or I have a girlfriend.I'm 40 and have never cheated on anyone I was with even tho I've been cheated on.I don't see how a few minutes of pleasure is worth hurting someone you truly love like that.I treat people as I want to be treated.I find myself not trusting her as I should.I'm not a great catch,I'm disabled,can't work,have no money and suffer from social anxiety.She can have her choice of so many guys with tons and tons more to offer.I'm beginning to think she wants to move on,but doesn't want to hurt me as I'm so fragile a man.I no longer drink and she may just not want to feel guilty if something happens.Sometimes I wonder if being a nice man and treating people like I want to be treated is the right thing to do.Please don't tell me to go out and do what she does because I can't,noone wants me.Even if I could it wouldn't matter.I could have a house full of swimsuit models and I swear she wouldn't be jealous.A little jealousy makes you feel wanted,not ALOT tho,just a tad.Thanks for reading this as I need advice.I went 15 years without a single date until we met.Is that making me the way I am?Am i just paranoid?
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reader, Mr.Worry +, writes (12 March 2008):
Mr.Worry is verified as being by the original poster of the question She may be lonely,that's what worries me that she'll find someone better.I should have made it clearer,sorry bout not,i'm not in a wheelchair.I just have no ankle bones,they are fused.My legs and knees are messed up and my right arm is paralized.I still drive and walk without any help from a cane or walker.I only have problems trying to walk up or down a hill,that's when you really miss having ankles.lol
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reader, Mr.Worry +, writes (12 March 2008):
Mr.Worry is verified as being by the original poster of the questionNo went haven't socialized yet.We are 900 miles away and are planning to meet next month.If things work out,I can move there or she can move here.Probably her because she used to live here.But that's way far ahead as I don't even know if we'll be together if these problems continue.She says her family knows however I don't fully believe that.
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