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writes:ok so here we go. I've a rough life. im not gonna get too much into it but in short I've been thru it all when it comes to relationships, and I havnt been in one in years ever since my ex died. so I met this girl in the most unlikely of places. over a computer game. we started basic flirty talk. after awhile I noticed that all I looked forward too all day was just hearing her voice. each time I heard her voice it made me smile. soon we started texting from dawn to dusk. one day she wasn't herself. I knew this just from her texts. she refused to tell me. I asked her if it had to do wit her ex and she told me it did. then I knew she was confused because the feelings she had for me and this guy that is trying to take her back. I told her all this and she confirmed it. I knew all this because its like she is a part of me that I've been missing. after that she told me she wanted to be with me and noone else. after that Ive never felt better I was happy for the first time in a long time. after a couple weeks we found out later we both where going to the same convention. now she lives in canada and I live on the southern end of the us. we both where thrilled to finally meet in person. I knew I loved this woman and because she lives so far away I wanted to spend every second with her. she told me a bit before that one of her turnoffs is clingy guys. I was ignorant of that and ended up smothering her and pushed her away. after I came home she was different. I was under the impression that everything was ok. she told me she had a great time with me. yet now she tells me that the clingy thing bugged her. I apoligized to her and told her how I wasn't myself because we live so far from each other I wanted to spend as much time with her as possible. to wich she replied that we live too far from each other that neither of us could afford the visits nor move, that we should just be friends. I can't do that ill always want more, and I told her so. so we said are good bye's and best wishes. that was a couple days ago. I hurt so much. I can't stop thinkin about her. I don't want anyone else but her. it feels like I lost a piece of myself. how could I lose this person who is so amazing. what do I do. how do I get her back? please help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 September 2009): Hello, I know it's tough. I'm still getting out of a beak-up, very similar to yours. After a month, it's still tough for me. Only difference was is we both were more financially stable if either of wanted to make the move. We split for different reasons, no reasons between each other, but something bigger than both of us. He may have possibly been the greatest love of my life. And he told me I was the greatest thing he ever had...anyways.We were both really "clingy." We would talk to each other everyday since we had met, for like 8-9 hours a day/everyday and text messaging in between. He was the one that always made the first step in getting in touch with me.For what it's worth, relationships are about compatibility and needs. She can't give you what you need in a relationship and you don't need to compromise. If she clicked that well with you, she would of wanted to spend time with you. Trust me, she liked you, but didn't like you THAT much. I would take your time out, lick your wounds, and try to heal. It's a process and won't be easy.Good Luck
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reader, gwendolyn R +, writes (30 August 2009):
 Well it sounds to me that she doesn't diserve a friendly guy like you. you have been through hell and she is insiative to your feelings i truelly hope you'll find someone better then just on the net.
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