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writes:i am going thru the exact same thing as i write this....i have been with this girl for the last 3 months, she was coming off a relationship of 2 years, her ex betrayed her a number of times. The first month of our relationship, she two timed me with her ex, despite her telling me that she loved me....i decided to give her a chance because i could understand that there are usually strings attached in a relationship of 2years. I therefore decided to let it go and she promised me that i wud never regret giving her a second chance. 2 months passed by and i just found out that she had been seeing this guy regardless of what she promised me. she calimed he met her only a couple of times for a harmless lunch. I agreed to that, however, i found out details that he wud go and sleep over at her place wenever she went back to her hometown. She swears on her life that it happened only once and she did not let him physically touch her. I dunno whetther i can believe that or not! She did let me down the second time i was very disappointed. I made up my mind and told her i was not going to be with her anymore, i called it off and she cried for hours outside my doorstep refusing to go away until i took her back! she calimed that she loved me so much tht wat she did was out of sheer stupidity and did not have a reason to back her actions. The first time, he was blackmailing her cos he had some explicit pics of her. This time around she doesn know why she did what she did! She refuses to let me go or to let me break it off, saying it will kill her to loose me, she is so desperate to make this work promising she will change her ways! She also told me that if i wanted to get even she wud not care less as long as i am staying with her and she promises to change herself and to love me so much! I am utterly confused! the first time i could understand her reason, but this i do not...and why does she not want me to leave her? Why does she not want to go to him and let me move on? Why is she intent on holding on to me so tight!!! She keeps telling me i am the best thing tht ever happened to her! She forces herself to be called my gf wen i completely stopped! She cheated on me twice, she doesn wanna leave me, she says she loves me and will die without me in her life, i have tried to break it off but she refuses to accept it! Should i take her word this time and take her back? i need help!
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reader, youngin  +, writes (27 October 2008):
Hey man if I was you I would really think about it its only been two months if that's how she is get out now before you can't I have had the same problem I have been with my girlfriend for five years now and it seems like she is starting to cheat on me and now its hard for me to let go becauce I love her so much and I don't wanna believe she is doing that because that never use to be her she was always that one love kind of girl but things change and if you wait to long you won't be able to let go and you will just sit there hurt as ever its hard man I wish I could just let go instead of being here knowing about everything and being hurt just let her go before its to late
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reader, Dr Vendetta  +, writes (15 February 2008):
 huh..Whats this! on the bottom of my shoes?Ooh. it's Crap.Would you mind kneeling down and letting me use your back as a door mat? I mean this crap is Really worked In deep in these shoes.And the moral of the story is..Stop being a door mat, grow a spine and kick her to the curb and move on.Next.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 February 2008): Its not only girls who cheat but guys cheat also and as you already gave her a number of chances I would cut my losses and walk away from her now. She is saying it will kill her to loose you - why is she doing what she doing to you then? Doesn't she realise what she is killing you? She still wants her ex but she also wants you as a safeguard in case things don't work out as planned for her. She doesn't want to be alone... Personally if it was me I would say no to her and move on. My ex cheated on me with my best friend, I found out the first time and forgave them both but next time they were both given their marching orders.
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reader, chlez83  +, writes (15 February 2008):
You would be a bigger fool if you gave her chance to play you a third time.If a girl can cheat on you once,she's 99% likely to do it again and why should you always be a victim to the same person? She knows how much you love her and is taking advantage of that and it sure seems to be working her way.Put your foot down and get this girl ouuta your life coz she'll seriously mess you up.However,some believe love conquers all and people change and hence can be forgiven but with this girl,for me it's a NO.She sounds alot like an ex from my past.I've learnt my lessons.If you wana learn it the hard way.Prepare a big welcome and forgiveness party for her!
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