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writes:This is an update on something that I have posted before.Theres a girl in my class that I really like. We have always had passing conversations and last week I asked her out by writing a letter. In the letter I put some really soppy things. A while after she sat a few meters away from me at dinner with her friends. It was then that she asked me over and she said that she really liked me as a friend but then she said that she would go out with me. She asked that we could do it outside of school because she wanted it kept quiet. I agreed and she seemed happy until someone was saying we was going out and the smile went even though we both denied it.The next day one of her mates came over and gave me a letter. It said that she wanted to concentrate on her exams and that she thought it would be best if we stayed as friends. I tried to give her a letter (via a friend) and talk about it but she won't. It was then that one of her mates came over to say back off and they said that I was pressurizing her. I've tried talking to her again to apologize about pressurizing her but the only words that came out were sorry. Basically she couldn't wait to get away from me because it was so awkward.Before I apologized I also tried talking to her in my French lesson because she sits next but one to me. I tried to act firendly and when I tried to complement her hair she ignored me until I said it again. She also seemed annoyed when I was trying to give her a piece of work. I feel that this is becasue she thought it was another letter. Also I get the feeling that she has never had this attention before becasue if cetain things she said. Does this mean that shes freaked out as well?I don't know what to do. I'm confused. Did she like me and her friends told her to ditch me or does she not like me? I really need an answer because it's breaking my heart. I felt let crying my eyes out after today.
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reader, chachacha +, writes (18 April 2007):
I'm afraid there is nothing for you to do. She has made it plain what she wants from you and if you like her, you'll respect what she has asked of you.
Concentrate on your French in your French class and do your best to pass your own exams.
You'll get over it, and if it's meant to be, it will happen later of its own accord.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 April 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for your answer. Its really helpful. I really like this site because you seem to get so much useful info. I was really down when I was writing the letter and now I feel better. I hope she comes back because it would put me on cloud nine because to be honest I've fell for her in a bad way. Since I got the letter its been hell. I seem to be so confused and none of my mates are much help. I've got to sit there here again tomorrow in French and I dont know what to do. Should I laugh off the way I sadi sorry today?
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 April 2007): i think you should back off for a while then say to her you would still like to be friends. and then say you are sorry again and see what happens. If she likes you in that way then she will tell you but if she doesn't then you have to accept that
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 April 2007): Well,she does still like u she just needs a little space at the moment,wat wiv the exams nd every fin!Just give her time she'll come back u wait!Hope this helps!x
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