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male
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30-35,
anonymous
writes: My girlfriend of six months just broke up with me and I want her back so bad. She meant everything to me and I loved her with all of my heart. We broke up recently about a week ago. I have not made any effort to contact her since then. I was im'd by her just a few days ago and she was talking about breaking up and stuff and i told her no i didnt want to talk about it that way and it was cruel to do it that way rather than in person. She broke up with me initially over a txt msg even though she said that she knew it was mean and she didnt want me to be there bc she didnt want to see me hurt. At the same time in the msg she said that she just wasnt sure. I lived with her for 5 months and i was always a gentleman and did almost everything she asked bc i didnt want her to have to deal with the stuff. I went to get some of my stuff one night when she said i could. She then asked me if i wanted to spend the night and after she asked i refused and she agreed that it was a bad idea. She then said that she still wanted me in her life and still wanted to be friends. i told her that i couldnt do that bc I just couldn't handle it. We did everything together and we even had our classes the same. I asked her what i did wrong and she told me i did nothing wrong at all. I have not contacted her or anything and she still has some of my things that i cant get. she hung out with a mutual friend and she was talking to her about it and she asked her about me getting the rest of my things and she said all i had to do was call so i could get it or she would bring it to me. I called and asked someone she lives with earlier if i could get my things and she refused to let me do so. I have no idea what is the intention behind that or if she is just being difficult. I just want to know what to do. I love her so much and i know she loves me. I want to know what i can do if anything to be with her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 February 2009): She's playing with you mate, you feed her self worth and frankly you sound like a nice guy, but a bit of a pushover.
It sounds like you are caring, considerate and a real catch, so leave it be and get over her. Someone amazing is out their waiting for you who will show you the care and affection that you obviously have to lavish.
Good Luck hon xo
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 February 2009): You need to start sticking up for yourself. Instead of being all bewildered and seeking the help of amateur online agony aunts, you need to get some self respect. I think this girl would LOVE for you to come crawling, to beg and plead and tell you how much you love her. I think, instead, that you should be forceful but respectful in getting your things back, then leave this thing be. You are very young, and let me tell you, girls learn very early on which guys are pushovers and will let them walk all over them. Sounds like this girl liked having you around to make her feel good, but soon grew bored when she realized how much of a fawning puppy you are. This is not attractive to most women. I know it's hard to let go of people you care for, but I think you should let this one go. Don't call her, don't sit wondering what you did wrong, don't plot schemes to win her back. Get your stuff back and move on.
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