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writes: I have been having sex with my boyfriend for a while now but lately I have not been getting orgasms, and I get a very painful feeling in my stomach if he goes too deep. How can I help this?
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reader, Rebecca Batchelor +, writes (21 August 2005):
 This can simply be caused by your cervix becoming tender as a result of your partner's penis hitting it when he inserts deeply. You could try different positions to avoid this happening so much, such as you being on top whereby you can control how far in he goes. Deep penetration is often achieved when your partner is behind you and sometimes the missionary position also.
Relaxation is also the key here. The more relaxed you are, the less discomfort you are likely to feel. Perhaps one of the reasons why you have been experiencing pain is because you are anticipating it, hence you aren't so relaxed and find it hard to achieve an orgasm. It is a bit of a catch 22 situation which you need to get out of.
I would suggest you take more control in your love making. Prolong the foreplay to aid your relaxation and to make sure you are very aroused before he enters you. Enjoy the sensations of being on top which will also help to develop your confidence again.
Let your boyfriend know that you have been experiencing some pain and that you would like to experiment to try to stop this from happening. This way, he will be aware not to go too deep inside you and allow you more control.
Do visit the doctor just to make sure you don't have an infection. Antibiotics will clear it up on no time.
Above all, have fun experimenting!
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reader, Anastasia  +, writes (21 August 2005):
 First of all you need to consider your boyfriend's size or the position that you have sex in . Some positions make a deep penetration and some make a shallow one. It all depends..like sex from behind is deeper than sex on your back.....for me at least....that is why I stay far from it cause it causes pain. If you can experiment gently with different positions, it might help..otherwise...check a doc hun. It could be something more serious...take care..ana
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