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writes: I am living with my partner. He has 3 different email addresses with passwords. I cannot access this and feel he is being secretive as he spends a lot of time on the net. I have asked him about passwords but he said tha we both needed our own space and his email was like a diary. Do you think I am being unreasonable to ask for passwords. I do not think we should have any secrets from each other. My previous partner was unfaithful, and I would like to feel secure.
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reader, becky05 +, writes (10 August 2005):
You have to tell him how you feel about this. Ask him to see his emails once to set your mind at ease and then let the matter rest.
Ask him not to spend so much time on the internet and suggest activities you can take part in together.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 December 2004): Your insecurity is right on the money. You need to sit down and talk with your partner about your issues and let him know that you do not like the feelings you are having. Let him know that you are feeling insecure not because of what he is doing but because he is being secretive about it. Let him know that honesty is the key to most successful relationships and that you just want him to be honest. But if he does let you in on it, don't get mad if it is something you don't like, just let him know that it bothers you but that if that is what he has to do then by all means he should not be upset when you decide to leave.
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