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writes:Hi. So I'm having a little trouble.I will use fake names to distinguish the different people.There's this girl (we'll call her Angie) I dated her twice. first time she broke up with me because I was her first boyfriend. The second time I broke up with her because I didn't think she was all into me as her boyfriend even though it was her idea to get back together.So a year or so past. I dated this other girl. (lets call her Beth) Basically she meant a lot to me. She was the only one that had actually made me feel special and that I was more than just little old me. She was something special to me. That's what I thought. Turns out she just used me. So she cheated on me and basically destroyed me. I was devastated.Months have passed since the incident with Beth. I still have very strong feeling of dislike towards her.Then one day Angie tells me since the last time we broke up she's thought about some stuff and realized that she has strong feelings for me. So I told her I do too. I really do. And I want to be with her, but I'm so terrified of being in a relationship again.So I don't know what to do... My question is... Should I start a relationship with Angie again? Or not bother?
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reader, Cheesepuffu-san +, writes (30 May 2014):
Cheesepuffu-san is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thanx you for answering. I will take all your advice to heart.
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reader, Dionee' +, writes (25 May 2014):
 Communicate your feelings. It is something you will get over eventually. I don't think you're scared of relationships on a whole, i think you're scared of the relationships you had with angie and beth. The thought of getting back with either of them would bring to surface this fear. Its only because of what you went through and behaved like while in the relationship. This shows that there are issues that need to be addressed and discussed with her before you guys can decide to become an official couple again. If you don't sort it out now, you may ruin future potential relationships with your fear. Speak out. Communicate your feelings.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 May 2014): If you had to get back with your ex-girlfriend this will be like the third time???... It sounds like there were unresolved issues that exist between you and Ang that caused you two to break up. You need to communicate with Ang and resolve these issues before you think about getting back with her ...I hope that if you do get back with her that you are not using her as a rebound to get over Beth or as a distraction...
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reader, Atsweet1  +, writes (24 May 2014):
 Its okay to take small sets that way you can grow and learn each other. You broke up with her so she may question your motive for wanting to reconnect back with her. She may feel like a rebound just cause your other girl didn't work out like expected
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