A
female
 ,
anonymous
writes:hey, I have a problem with the physical side of a relationship. What I mean is, I'm to scared to kiss a guy who might be my bf or go any further. I am 16 years old and have had 2 bfs, the first one only lasted a week and he dumped me because I wouldn't go any further. The second one lasted 5 months! And we got no where, phsyically. Emotionally and mentally we were quite close and got along well, but we never kissed or went any further. We only like hugged and helds hands ,that type of thing. I was so afraid of getting as close as kissing and because he was shy like me he didn't make the first move for it. Now I have found a guy I really like, we are very close and good friends and we both want to make the relationship into a bf/gf one, but im nervous about the issue of me being afraid to kiss and such arises again. Help, I'm to afraid to kiss and go further with him, what do I do?I guess if he was to intiate the kiss it would be ok, but then what if i freak out and move away? I also fear that when he kisses me I will get really anxious and stop breathing as I have a bad history of hyperventelating when I get nervous or anxious about thigns and for the fact that our lips will be together, how am i suppose to breathe then. ill just pull away!!!!!!!argh, what do i do?please help! thankyou for taking time out to read this and possibly answer it :)
View related questions:
kissing, shy Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
male
reader, anonymous, writes (11 December 2005): Hi,Why be so afraid i was just like you when i had my 1st girlfriend i was afraid to kiss her and when the time came to it i would just give her a light kiss on the lips and run away. I was afraid to kiss her properly because i didnt kno how to! But after a while she dumped me lol. But with me next girlfriend i just didnt want to make the same mistake and kissed her properly. It is hardly rocket science, i found it ok and wasnt nervous at all. As before coming to the situation of kissing a girl i would panic and feel ill over a kiss! Really when you feel its right just go for the move like str8 eye contact and move closer to him. Or if he makes the move just go with the flow, As you kiss be experimentitive with your tongue like gently touch his. Or if you like copy the way he kisses.As i said it hardly rocket science and it will come to you. The main thing is to be calm and im sure you wont panic.Hope this helps and good luck.
A
male
reader, dude101 +, writes (11 December 2005):
you really seem to like this guy so i cant really help you with the emotional side of it but i think if you just let the things you want to happen then things will seem a lot easier. if he kisses you, dont think about it too much!
...............................
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (11 December 2005): Everyone gets a little flustered when they get their first boyfriend/girlfriend. You need to calm down and remember that your boyfriend is probably just as nervous as you! The reason you are feeling nervous is because you are in love and you don't want to mess things up, everyone feels like this at least once in their life so don't worry, you won't have to through it again. The feelings are totally normal, promise!You need time to relax around your boyfriend, and when you do feel ready to take things a little further, then go for it! Don't worry, eventually you will become more confident, and be able to kiss him.You won't hyperventilate, as long as you relax and take things slowly, you'll be fine. Good luck, and trust me!
...............................
|
