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writes:I am a 23 year old married woman with 2 little girls under the age of 2. My husband and I have been married for 6 months and together for 3 years. The problem is, I don't think I love him anymore. I am so severly depressed, suffering from severe hair loss and an eating disorder! Our marriage is very rocky and we fight all the time. I am ready to throw the towel in. The problem is, I am in love with my husbands uncle who is 37. He is all I think about and dream about. I don't even want to have sex with my husband, and only fantasize about having sex with his uncle. I consider him a great friend and he is always there emotionally for me. He has never made a pass at me, nor I him. I just fell head over heels in love. I know this is wrong and I can never be with him, but how do I struggle everday when I live right next door to him and see him all the time to get over him? I feel guilty for not loving my husband, he is a wonderful man and a great father, there is just nothing there at all for me and I am so depressed. I feel so alone and I can't talk about this to anyone. I want to be with this man and not my husband, but it's impossible. I can't hurt my girls or my husband and I certainly can't be with this man because family will definately intervene. I think he has feelings for me, you can just tell but he never acts upon any of them and neither do I. I don't even know if he knows how I feel about him. I try not to make it obvious. Please help me to figure out what to do. This is not fair to my husband or me or my girls.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 January 2009): you're 23! that's still very young. Don't give up hope yet. It's not the time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 January 2009): First off, I just wanted to mention that my husbands family forced us to hurry up and get married because at the time we got married we already had one child and another one on the way. His family (not his uncle) is very old fashioned and believed we were living in sin. His family owns a dairy farm, my husband works on it and we live there too. They were making our lives hell so we got married just to spite them. I hate my life except for my children and I don't hate my husband. I like him but definitely don't love him. I love like the last person siad, Uncle QT! What do I know????
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 January 2009): You need to get help first for yourself, then drag your husband to get help with you. There was something about your husband that you fell in love with. Get that spark back. Put the other guy out of your mind, and get on with your married life. Once you put yourself and your husband first, everything else will fall into place.
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reader, 48years  +, writes (10 January 2009):
 Honey, could it be that you and your husband's fights are over money? Times are tough right now, and the fantasy that Uncle QT is a better choice has gripped you. Something made you love your hubby enough to agree to marry him, share your lives, and raise a family together, right?
Find that spark with your mate. Forget Uncle QT. Pretend Aunt Hottie wants your hubby, see him with new eyes.
No one's problems ever got better by putting a new pair of shoes under their bed!
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