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writes: Ok so I would so appreciate a third party perspective on this. I am 21 and am in a foreign country for a year studying abroad. Since I have been here I met a wonderful guy. There a a few problems though. The first and foremost is that I am going back to my home country in August and will probably spend the rest of my life there. the other is religious.I am a pagan and he is muslim. He has a completely different view on life. I love this man deeply but I dont think I could ever conform to the religious aspects that he wishes of me. I also would never be interested in living in an Islamic state as he so wishes. despite all this he promises that there would never be problems as i imagine them but I just dont see how this could be. do you have any advice as to what I can do? -Confused
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reader, Bev Conolly  +, writes (8 January 2005):
 Hi Confused,You already know the answer to this one. You have said that you intend going back to your own country in a matter of months and feel that you could never live in an Islamic country. Where, then, are you two going to live? You also couldn't conform to his religious standards (and even if you could, it would mean giving up part of your own identity as a pagan). If this man regards his religion as a fundamental part of his life, he'll never be happy with a non-Muslim for the long term.If this man cannot accept you as you are and isn't prepared to make his own adjustments - for example, moving to your country and keeping his own religion without insisting you change yours - how can there be any relationship at all? He may love you and you may love him, but I suspect that in weeks or months, you'd end up at each other's throats over the disparity between your lifestyles.I suggest you cut the ties sooner rather than later.
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