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male
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:About a month ago I met the most amazing girl, smart attractive, easy going, pretty much everything that I wanted in a woman. After two weeks she told me that she loved me and that I was her soul mate. I feel the same way. I am the first person she has ever said that too. I am a pretty affectionate person and she is not use to anybody being that way towards her. We text back and forth and talked almost every night. She told me we needed to slow down and I took a few steps back, trying to give her her space. Last Wed. she called me and said she need a break, maybe a few weeks maybe a month or more to think about want she wants, she said she wasn't sure if she wanted a relationship at the moment. She said that she was trying to tell me to slow down the last week and that I wasn't listening. It was a complete turn around over night it seems. I know she has a lot of stress going on right now with some ex boyfriends that won't leave her alone, new job, new area she moved too, family, etc. With all these stressors that are in her life I feel like I was the easiest to remove at this time. I had heard from some of her coworkers that when she sees me again she has no expectations of anything and that she was frustrated with all that was going on. What should I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 December 2009): You are in a difficult situation and the situation could potentially get even more difficult with the lack or miscommunication of feelings. I would call her and ask to meet her for an informal coffee or drink to talk. Assure her that you are more than happy to give her whatever space she needs and that you can wait until she gets her life in order to be with her. If it is true that she is going through a lot of stress right now, it will mean a lot to her to know that you have no intention of being one of the stressors, only support if she needs it.
Give her space. If she is meant to be yours she will come back to you.
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