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anonymous
writes: i have been with the man for almost 6 years and we have had our ups and downs and been thru alot lately with everyday life,we use to have the best sex life ever, then recently he seems to have lost intrest in me, like maybe im not like i use to be when we first met, i fear that we are slipping into that "comfortable stage" of our relationship, so i need to know how to spice it up again? any help would be great thanks.
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reader, Jovial  +, writes (19 December 2006):
 hi there
communication is the key to a healthy relationship and u guys seem to have lost it, u might be feeling insecure about something which is non-existence, explore all the possibilities that can be a source of all this fading interest on you, check the environment and conditions of his work did his routine changed recently? if true he might be stressed out, any change in hobbies he might be tired after this, friends he might be spending too much time until late at night, etc. Sometimes when u are in longterm relationship unknowingly u reach ur comfort zone and start behaving like an old married couple, but u guys are so young for something like this to be happening now. and if u are both employed maybe u are focusing on making a living and forget to live which is wrong and this lessens communication and the level of intimacy. which means try to balance ur lifestyle; if any of the above arent true then we can say the problem is personal find out what it is, find some inspiration urself, buy lingerie go wild, but becareful if the passion is dead no lingerie will fix it if u guys are not communicating, ask him what he wants his hopes and dreams for both of u and work on that, do little things like texting him regularly during the day and ask him to do the same, take walks in the park , have a moment of silent just cuddling all this helps to bring back the intimacy that is gone and if u can rekindle this, passion will be a piece of cake. thats why u need to talk about this with him and he should be willing to meet u halfway otherwise this endevour wont bring u the results u wish to achieve. u can try other things that can work for u my bf is the quite type so things like this always work for us so if urs he is some sort of hyperactive type it might not work as he will get bored easily, which means u will have to help him figure out what he will want u todo for him to excite him. be patient and good luck
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