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writes: My problem is I'm in love with a senative, loving man we've been together for 3yrs and married 3mos. I love this man with all my heart. The problem is that I'm a very senual woman who loves making love to my husband. But our love making is not often at all. It's gotten to maybe 2 times a month if I'm lucky. I've tried talking to him, but he says he cant be forced that he has to be in the mood. He does have diabeties and I know that does have a lot to do with his moods and getting aroused. When we do make love it is great!! I just wish is was more often. Feeling lonely... Any ideas on how to get him in the mood.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 March 2007): i'm at a loss too. my b/f is bipolar and I know what it's like for medication to affect getting in the mood myself. but i've been depressed because ever since i've been off birth control, i've been getting in the mood alot more but it doesn't matter how hard I try to seduce him, I fail miserably. Usually it wouldn't bother me because I know he loves me and his medication can cause his sex drive to decrease, but I spent all last night trying to get him in the mood and failed so I finally went to sleep. I woke up this morning and saw the lotion on the floor so I know he masturbated and this isn't the first time. Masturbation doesn't bother me either but when he does it know, I feel like he prefers that over me and I dont know what to do.
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reader, Donnah +, writes (30 September 2006):
 When you are old and grey...you will appreciate the sweet guy. However if you are in your prime....well that's another story. Hormones are taking over! LOL If your husband has these health issues, he may not be able to perform. Nor will he admit he cannot. It's a blow to the male ego. Be patient with him, no pressure (that will put a strain on the relationship) and find other ways of being together. Perhaps a toy or two that he could use on you. Play with the idea and see if he either gets aroused by it or if it'll help him to have less stress in having sex. It's the act of being together that is more meaningful...Yes?
Erectile Dysfunction is coming out more and more in commercials. The meds he takes is a definite contribution to it. It is a touchy subject though. He may be worried you'll go somewhere else. ?????
Reassure and comfort him and see if that helps the hidden issues if there are any.
Otherwise, play and have fun...see if that'll stir him up.
Good luck to you!
Donna
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reader, Toria +, writes (30 September 2006):
 Is it completely about the sex or just you feel you need some more attention from him and him showing you love so that you don't feel lonely?
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 September 2006):
OH!
I know exactly how you feel!
I have almost the same problem.
I am board to tears!
Mine has P.M.E problems and he only wants to get together once a month.
DM goes hand in hand with ciruculation problem.
Try a hot bubble bath for two!
This will get the blood flowing to the right areas!
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