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writes:Hi,I really need some advice. My girlfriend and I live together. We've had issues for awhile, but i never thought they were significant enough to break us up. I have a bit of a temper and get quite emotional sometimes, but i love her very deeply. She doesn't think I can change and she doesn't think she can be happy anymore. In our angry moments, I broke up with her. It was a horrible mistake and I hurt her and I was sorry. I knew I couldn't take it back, but I tried very much to. She told me she had had enough and broke up completely. I asked her for a second chance a couple days later to make things work and to let me try and make her happy. She took me back but since then she has been angry and apathetic. She told me she had sacrificed a lot for me and now she just wants to do her own thing in the relationship. She wants me to be okay with everything she does regardless of what it is. She also thought I was very needy and suffocating. I would like to give her that opportunity to make her happy if she felt I never did before, but i feel like it has become completely drastic dynamic change and I although wanting this for her, am very saddened by it. I love her and I want to be with her. I know nothing in life worth having is easy. I know I need to earn back her trust, but I am not really okay that she can do whatever she wants regardless of my feelings. I'm trying to not be angry with her anymore and have signed up for therapy, but I need her to work with me too. I want her to love me like we had and want to be with me just as much. How can I make this work? I know the thing is to give her space but it's hard to do when we live together.
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reader, s143k  +, writes (11 June 2010):
 Everyone makes mistakes we all humans you did something so wrong but you regret it and said that your are sorry and want everything to be better and you even went to therapy to handle your anger issue and that shows that you wanna make it work again and you really sorry about what happened soYou have to talk to her and tell her you made a mistake and you regret it, you have to make it up for her cause she is still angry so try to do the things that she love and give her flowers and do everything she want be romantic make her happy make her fall in love with you again in time everything will be fine you just need time to make everything better and show her that you changed be patient it takes time. You know you can't take it all back but you can make it up for her and I hope everything will be ok
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reader, s143k +, writes (11 June 2010):
Everyone makes mistakes we all humans you did something so wrong but you regret it and said that your are sorry and want everything to be better and you even went to therapy to handle your anger issue and that shows that you wanna make it work again and you really sorry about what happened soYou have to talk to her and tell her you made a mistake and you regret it, you have to make it up for her cause she is still angry so try to do the things that she love and give her flowers and do everything she want be romantic make her happy make her fall in love with you again in time everything will be fine you just need time to make everything better and show her that you changed be patient it takes time. You know you can't take it all back but you can make it up for her and I hope everything will be ok
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