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writes:I am in such a dilemma. Three months ago, I was at my boyfriend's house and he had to leave suddenly after a very secretive phone call he made to someone. My suspicion is that he was calling another girl, whom I know to be my ex-best friend. I think he's been cheating on me with her. Infact, I know he has. And it's been killing me.Anyway, after he left, I was alone with his slightly older brother. He had just split up with his girlfriend so offered me a drink while he drowned his sorrows. I'm ashamed to say we both got quite drunk, and ended up sleeping together. My boyfriend discovered this.He ended it immediately, and confirmed my beliefs about his affair with my ex-BFF. But that's not the worst part. I'm pregnant. It might be my ex-boyfriend's, or his brother's. I need help. I don't know what to do. I can already feel a slight bump. And my parents will kill me. Help me, please. I'm so alone.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 May 2009): I think you should talk to your parents they will understand. You should start out saying you made a big mistake that way they dont go into how you made a mistake...... but remember your paretns will be by yourside and they will respect any choice you make during the road ahead of you, but first you havae to tell them what happened or else they cant help.
About the father thing you would have to wait to get the DNA tested or talk to your docter.
xoxoxoxoxoxo,
kayleigh
P.S. the longer you wait to tell your parents the more mad they will be so i would tell them now. Good Luck
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reader, natasia +, writes (5 May 2009):
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and how pregnant are you? if you already have a slight bump, i very much doubt you can have an abortion now (and you haven't talked about wanting an abortion, either) (i am pretty against them as i had one when i was young, and have always regretted it - but that's my story :).
one thing to remember: a year down the line, when the baby is here, everybody will forget all this upset. I don't think it will ruin your life - but you need advice, and love, and support - now.
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reader, natasia +, writes (5 May 2009):
You poor, poor thing - you need someone to talk to, and help you. I'm sure this will all be sorted out.
I know you think your parents will be mad, but don't you think they'll get over it? And as for which boy is the father - that you can only tell when the baby is born, and you can have a DNA test, I'm afraid. But a doctor will be able to help you predict which boy it is, if you didn't sleep with both on the same night. If you did, then can't tell until DNA. Whatever way, the baby will be related to both boys.
I think you should go to your mum or dad or someone else close to you and talk about this - now. xxx
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reader, Olivia(Y). +, writes (5 May 2009):
 Why were you having sex with different people being under 16? You bacically lowered yourself to your boyfriends level.
You need to go visit you family planning clinic. They will keep it confidential. You can either keep the baby but your life will change so much and you will have to grow up very quickly as you will have another life to support or yoy can choose to have an abortion which is about £450 done privately.
Good luck
Livia
xoxox
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (5 May 2009):
 If you are positive you are pregnant then you have no other choice but to tell your parents. Today not tomorrow. You are a minor so you will need them to help you with your medical care. They also can advise you on what to do with the prospective fathers.
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