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writes:Hi Guys! This isnt really a romance question, but a relationship one nonetheless, and I would really like as many answers as possible. My boyfriend and I have a differance of opinion on familial relationships. One of us says that boys generally are closer to their Moms, and girls are generally closer to their Dads. Therefore the opposite sex parent is more important in a childs life. Not to say that the same sex parent is not important, but the opposite sex one is more so. The other of us says that children are generally closer to their Moms, regardless of sex and that Mom is the center of the family and Dad is almost always of less importance to the child. Not to say that Dads are not important, but that Moms are more so. This applies to both young children and adult children. So the question is ~ What is true for you? Are you closer to your Mom or Dad? Did this change as you became an adult?If you have children of your own, who are they closer to? Has your answers changed over the years at all? I would love to hear all anecdotal evidence and opinion! Reply to this Question
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reader, Midge  +, writes (15 April 2008):
 I couldnt actually choose just now to be honest. I am really close to both my parents, however this has not always been the case.
I have always been close to my mum. A real mummy's girl however as I have grown older, in particular since we emigrated some 11 years ago, I have become very close to my dad too.
My boyfriend finds it odd that I do so much with my parents as he only has a good relationship with his dad and not his mum. He works with his dad so doesnt see the need to spend a lot of afterhours time with his family. Whereas I dont work with my parents so try and spend as much time with them as I can. My dad in particular is really not well so I try and spend as much time with him as I can.
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reader, baybee-x-sparkii +, writes (15 April 2008):
 Erm would have to be my dad...me and my mum have a fall out once every two days sometimes everyday :P my dads cool about everything :D
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 April 2008): I am closer to my mom because my dad left when I was 4. My mom is not the greatest mom nor has she ever been but because I lived with her I am closer to her than my dad.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 April 2008): I'm a lot closer to my dad than my mom. My dad has always been the center of the family. My mom just seems to be helpless about everything so dad is the one doing all the driving, sewing, and most of the cooking. He also didn't need to be pushed into giving up alcohol and cigarettes.
I've never been close to my mom at all to the point where I sometimes wonder why my dad even stays with her. When I was a child I always wanted to spend time with my dad but since he was working most of the time my mom was the one around me. The only thing that's changed over the years is that this preference has grown.
I would rather not write any anecdotes since that would involve their personal lives.
As for my opinions I think the idea that fathers aren't important is bull. I view that idea with the same anger/sorrow that I have for ideas like: "You're over 14 and still a virgin? What's wrong with you?" or "You can't be a real man or woman until you've had a baby!". If society were a body these ideas would be diseases no different from multiple sclerosis, malaria, or the flu.
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reader, TELLULAH +, writes (15 April 2008):
 Hi,
I would say definatly my Dad. He is the best man I have ever met and never lets me down. He is kind and compasionate and always makes sure I am ok, even though I am 48. I absolutely dread the thought of losing him, as he is now 78 years old, and getting on a bit. I love my mother very much, but feel I could cope with the thought of losing her. But I know my world will fall apart when my dad goes. Its making me cry thinking about it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 April 2008): When I was younger I was much closer to my nan than my mum but since she died I've gotten closer to my mum! Myself and dad are too alike and end up shouting and arguing at each other so don't really get on with him.
My boyf's son is much closer to him than his own mother
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reader, daniellexxxx +, writes (15 April 2008):
 Well i'm more close to my mum as my mum and dad split when i was a baby so i gess i saw more of my mum that made me closer. But now i'm older i'd say i get on better with my dad as i live with my bf and baby and see more of him than my mum now. My babys a girl and shes closer to me than her dad shes a mummys girl but i gess the saying girls are daddys girls and boys are mummys boys sometimes it's trure but i'd say you love your parents the same.
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