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writes: ive been with the father of my child for three years 3 days ago i found out he cheated on me with a girl who is under age he slept with her twice we were trying to deal with it and i asked him have you ever cheated on me before and he said no then he waited tell he got to work to tell me that he had sex with a girl that he met at the bar when i was pregnant he has cheated on me three different times since weve been together with three different girls i love him with all my heart hes the father of my child how do i learn to forgive him for what he has done because i really want to forgive him and go on with the rest of our life
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reader, DrPsych  +, writes (31 July 2006):
 Don't forgive him, he is a serial cheater who is easing his conscience by telling you what he has done and in a cowardly way over the phone. Quite apart from his disrespect of your relationship together, he is also disrespecting your body - how can you be sure that he isn't bringing home diseases to your bed? If you 'forgive him' you send a message that if it happens again that is ok too. The fact that he slept with an underage girl just adds insult to injury. This all comes down to self respect at the end of the day - you say you love him but relationships are about trust and respect as much as love. Don't 'learn' to forgive him, learn to like yourself enough not to put up with such rubbish treatment.
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reader, Astrid  +, writes (30 July 2006):
 You a re very nice but the fact is that if you don't get serious about it he will probably do it again, it is a good thing that the girls were different as it shows he was meresly looking for sexual intercourse and not for a love lasting relationship that it's what he shares with you, however he could have got a sexual transmission desease and pass it to his pregnant wife which is something serious you should bear in mind,he was very irresponsible about you and the baby. You can give him an opporunity but please mind about your mental and physical well being and don't pity him, he is to blame even if he is the best husband you can have at many aspects of daily life, be consistant about your conditions to accept him back if that is the case and 4 infidelities shouldn't be allowed dear
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reader, Thachorie +, writes (30 July 2006):
 If you do forgive him you will always have it in the back of your mind, trust is a hard thing to replace if you personally belive he wont do it again then try to forget it but if i a man can cheat on his girlfriend while she is pregnant then i belive he isnt worth trying to forgive. Love is a hard thing its up to you.
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