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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I met this really nice guy at work, he was a customer, and I new his order and would always have it ready when he came in. He is really attractive, nice smile, he is also funny and charming.Now he never came back to where I work for about three weeks... I was like hmm how come he hasn't been here in awhile. He came in the other night and on my break I went outside with him to his car, to talk and exchange numbers. I called him a few days later and we hung out. We watched movies and ate some food, he is really nice very generous. He works out, and is very kind to me. We sat beside each other and I leaned on him. I said to him, you know I'm tired can we go lie down, and we did. We went to lie down and then he started massaging my back, very nice, and I started getting sleepy. I then proceeded to do the same to him on his back like he did mine. Soon he asked would you like to rub my chest, and he said I have never had this kind of massage before(on his chest) I was on top and getting really aroused by the position. I liked it. Like I said big guy, tall, dark and handsome the whole nine, and then some. And he is packing some, like omgsh alot of package. Got to the point where I said to myself, you know what,I'm gonna kiss him and I did, I started making out and what do you know, we are already having sex, and amazing sex at that...unplanned and explosive. The best I have ever had. He was very gentle, and curtious and he held me, and made sure to look into my eyes as he was going inside and out of me. blew my mind that night. now after this a few days later we had a conversation on the phone for about two hours, and it was fun, i got to know who he was, what he's all about and he gave me some nice advice. I have messaged him sometimes and given him calls and there is usually no answer. I now am thinking okay is he ignoring me? I soon find out that he is just really busy and can hardly get to the phone sometimes, i understand.So why do I feel so shafted? I mean I know we do not really have that whole relationship thing going on yet, but how do I get over this annoying rejection feeling? How do i surpass this feeling that he really doesn't care as much as I think he does, Today he sent me a message saying " I will message you tonite, if i'm available"Now I am soooo happy that there is this really nice guy, who is working his butt off going to school and making his money and paying his bills on time. So why am i so disappointed, I mean I guess I just really want to be wanted, and desired and feel like i'm needed, and sometimes with him I dont. I mean he was honest with me when he told me that he does not use people, and that he actually cares about peoples souls which is understandable. But tonite I called him on his house phone and his cell phone, to see wats up...no answer(10:30). Then swung by his house after work and noticed that his car was parked in the drive way. Now was he ignoring me? I just dont like having this feeling, is it because of my already low self esteem...I mean I feel so insecure about this, because I feel as if the sex, wasn't enough to at least have him return my calls, or texts, and of corse I would use sex as a manipulative strategy for anything or anyone ever (now im not saying stop what ever the heck he is doing and come and answer the phone, I just want to get over the feeling of talking and trying to get to know someone who is a busy man) please I hate being like this feeling clingy and stuff like that, like he owes me something which he doesns't. are my being paranoid? or are my being a little obsessive, i just want to feel desired yu know...I mean why cant i be that busy that I dont have to wry about anyone else around me?(like him) is that even healthy, thankyou in advance for all of your responses.
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reader, girl from bristol  +, writes (1 February 2010):
hi you are a bit obssesive and this will drive him away its probably your insecurity but wait for him to contact you he will if he is really interested if not then he is not worth you worrying and you find a decent guy stop contacting him and see what happens
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