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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:"OP Own Title" Hiya i need some help clearing my head out. I've not had an easy past couple of weeks. My lifes feels like its gone for all to nothing. I feel in love with a friend of mine but never had the guts to tell him. He, alike me was also quite shy and quiet. The subject never got brought up between us but we had a few experiences which give me the signal he must feel the same. Many others also agreed. Things were strange between us and we didnt speak much, we never knew what to say to each other. I finally told him, not in person though. I left it rather late as i already knew he'd just started seeing someone, which totally shocked me as he always seemed so shy but i guess that was just with me. But i knew it would be my last chance. He told me he didn't feel the same but was glad i told him. Apparently he'd been waiting for me to say something to him because he'd been told by many others previously but never me personally. He told me he'd never felt that way for me and what happened between us before was just him trying to be friendly and he was wasted. Im very confused because he wasn't that wasted when other stuff happened, also we both knew what we were doing that night and he said after wards he really enjoyed it. Either way as much as it hurts I accept he doesn't want a relationship with me, We both still want to stay friends and Im grateful for that as i really don't want to loose him. I also took the chance to ask why he never spoke to me and he simply said he doesn't always know what to say and although I said well hes fine with the others he just said that he just goes along with it.As I say ive accepted it wont happen between us but for me to be able to move on and stay friends with him and hopefully have good memories with him in the future I need to clear my head. Many of my friends are saying it was obvious he liked me but maybe he doesn't anymore. I can see that but I don't understand how after all this time and what felt like something so strong could just disappear. And also that saying he was drunk is just an easy excuse.Then again when I told him I didn't see the point in telling him because he already knew he said well he would have told someone(if he liked them) which I found strange as hes always been very shy. So i know now that this is totally irrelevant but is it possible he did want me in the past? Don't worry im not going to start clinging to any hope if he did because i know that will get me no where. I need to move on and enjoy life and hopefully we can be friends but I need to clear my head out. I was expecting the answer I recieved off him which is why I never told him but his actions previously have really confused me and I want to just let it go. I have asked for my friends opinons as ive stated but i thought it would be nice to have some from people that aren't involved in the situation. Also if you could give me any tips on how to move on from him as hes been a huge part of my life for so long i'd be really grateful. Im trying to stay strong but I need some guidance as little things even good memories are bringing me to an ultimate low. thank you
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