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writes: Hi, ive been with my boyfriend nearly 6yrs im only gone 22 ive been with him since i was 16 he is a lovely bloke and i do love him, recently we bought a house together but i wasnt a hundred % certain at the time that it was a good idea because we were going through a rockey period which we still seem to be going through we dont argue much but it seems that are relationship has lost its spark. Ive talk to my bf lots of times and told him i was unhappy and that i thought he doesnt fancy or want me anymore because he rearly shows me any effection and we might if im luckey have sex once a week. We were never ones for being all over each other but had a good sex life which seems non existant at the mo. Ive tried wearing sexy underwear and tried new positions, and when we do have sex its great but. I just dont know what to do. And for the past few months ive noticed that i get more attention from other blokes then from my bf and its getting very hard for me not to stray, it shouldnt have to be a task to stay faithful to your bf but it is for me at the mo, which realy upsets me and i cry often which my bf has seen me doing and gets upset himself and says he will try better but nothing changes and i feel that when we have sex now hes only doing it to keep me happy and that doesnt make it pleasurable for me. Should i just apreciate what i have a bf who loves me and who i love dearly and learn to live with this problem or what, pls help ?
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2006): Hi i have the same problem as your bf i have lost all my sexual drive and i dont know why all i can suggest is to get medical help there has to be a reason why this happens
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reader, smeedle  +, writes (1 March 2006):
 Split up, sell the house and move on, you are thinking of straying even if you dont fully admit to it yet, he just carnt be bothered to try with you any more and basically you both have a habit not a forward going relationship.
Cut your loses now and dont drag this dead relationship any further, you will feel like a weight has been lifted when you do.
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reader, willywombat +, writes (28 February 2006):
 Six years is a long time and you cannot expect to still be *all over each other* after that length of time without some work.
You need to have a proper talk to him. Maybe putting your feelings down in a letter that he can read in private, so it is non confrontational. Communication is the key, you need to talk and listen to each other without being accusatory. Own your own feelings and decide were to go from there.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 February 2006): Hi.If I was in this spot is I would ask him what was wrong. There must be a reason and as soon as you find it out then you can help!
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