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writes: part 1i dont know where to begin. i just so confused and hope i did the right thing so this may be a few parts.history: dating a guy 8yrs younger than me for about 2 1/2 yrs, met him at work was going thru divorce and hit off as fwb then went a little more than that. he is a selfish but nice guy, caring, gd listner. but can be secrative, says harsh things without thinking, doesnt do what he says and disappears. he allowed to tell him when he did bad and confide in him. we had our regular ups and downs though as a couple had talks to make sure we on same page. our agreement was to be exclusive sexually and if found new thing or wanted out to say so. it was good then he left didnt say and came back, i asked we should try to do other things like hang not and just sex so if something goes wrong we kool, ok and nothing. he thought i wanted to control him when he has done his own thing and i wouldnt say a word. in the fall of 2009 i got pregnant, his 1st but miscarried and lost my job. he was there but disappeared and he said he wouldnt. i felt so alone for the above reasons and got into drugs. he came around and started back again i stayed on and off my addicatin and moved back to mom's 2010. he took off again not saying anything and back again to same thing for reals this time, i ended up getting pregnant and miscarried. when i told him he was pissed and told me he would have no bastard child and that we were not anything i beg u. i said take a hike, he didnt believe what i said and asked to forgive him and i did. we were ok till i notice he was becoming more open and trying to be more like a bf then he would back down and became distant. i asked to come and talk,he did. i asked if u want to leave go ahead or is something going on or someone else. he said he wants to stay but has been talking a lil more with ex who he has a bond with. ok then so what is going to happen,nothing i like what we have. as time went on he became more distant so i did question him and said u dont have to be here if you are not happy or feel bad for me because of my situtaion, i dont need your pitty and be strung along.mums the word.when problems started: i know he was going on vacation to vegas and thought i would ask him if it was for sure cuz i wanted to surprise him if i went. that is when he said well,my exwife is coming to talk she wants closure and maybe if there is chance of getting back together. i said wtf! is that why u have been so wierd! u could have told me i trusted you and you knew u should of said something. i am pissed that u couldnt tell me not that she wanted that.he said he didnt think he had too cuz it would hurt my feelings and wasnt going to happen asap plus she in hawaii and u here. i said your an ass it hurts more u didnt tell me and to be with me and work it out with her and telling her u single not right. he said sorry i should have known better. i will keep in contact and let u know. but i found out before that he did get back with her and didnt tell me cuz he didnt want to leave me yet.??? Its not fair u playing with both of us and I cant deal with it, I feel betrayed and dont know how i feel and to leave me alone??? it hurt but it was the thing to do?
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (20 April 2011):
 You need to get this man out off your life. He is a cheat a liar and not a very nice person. You deserve better. Dont let him treat you like a door mat and do not let him back in to your life. He thinks of you as this weak woman that he can use over and over again well you need to show him different. Stay strong ignore him if he tries to contact you. You delete all of his contacts and if he comes near you tell him to leave you alone you do not want to see him. You really dont need this man in your life. Yes it may hurt at the moment but give yourself time to heal and you will then wonder what you ever saw in him when you are in a happier place.
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