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writes: I am married but have found someone else very attractive. He is also married, but we feel that working together is becoming almost impossible without our attraction to each other growing. Unfortunitly not working together is not an option either of us can afford to take. We both love our spouses very much and don't want to hurt any of them but we are afraid that the desire is going to be to much for us to control. Please help. Reply to this Question
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reader, Devil's Advocate +, writes (5 April 2005):
 Take a cold shower!If you both love your respective partners, then you really shouldn't even be asking this question, should you?Devil's Advocate
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reader, Rebecca Batchelor +, writes (5 April 2005):
 If you honestly both love your spouses very much, then this shouldn't really be an issue. I think the fact that you both have a difficult to resist attraction for each other suggests that there are problems that need to be dealt with in your marriages. I'm not suggesting that when you are married, you don't find someone else attractive, just that you shouldn't normally consider having an affair with them.You need to take control of this situation by doing your level best to avoid the guy you work with and to tell him that you won't allow it to go any further. If you really think your marriage is important, sit down with your husband and talk of ways of redeveloping your own passion between you. Find out how he is feeling too.Consider what is the most important to you. Good luck.
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