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writes:I am a bengali brahmin and my bf is marwari. I am a student preparing for medical and belong to middle class family. N, my bf (two years older than me) has passed b.com with quite good marks. He has 5 jewellery shops of his own and has quite high status.We love each other very much. Or one can say, we are the life of one another. But, we both know that our parents are damn against of inter cast marriage. They will never agree. And, we both cannot live without each other.What should we do now? How can we convince our parents? Plzzz help. . . . Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 July 2011): i am of indian origins too..i agree with the post below..take it easy..study and build a solid foundation for yourself first as you are so young..wait and see if the man you currently love is the one for you, as caste and education can never get in the way of love as you both mature and get older..make your own decisions in life, for your own benefits, before thinking about marrying someone at this age..i made the mistake of being so blindly in love with my man for five years, that i could not see him for what he is..a child with no backbone in him at all..i fought with my friends and family for him..and he went back to his own family in the end..leaving me to deal with this mess alone..
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 July 2011): I am indian myself and have experienced a similar situation. In the end, its you who are going to live with this man, not your family. I see that you're only in your teens right now so my advice would be not to rush yourself. Go to medical school whilst still with your man. You will mature and start to think about the realities of sharing your life with someone. Work, bills, home, stress, children..etc etc..its not all a walk among roses and I'd adivce you to take that into consideration. Have a talk with your man about wether or not he'd stick by your side (even after med.school). I'm speaking from experience..I was with a guy from I was 16-20, but he couldn't or wouldn't deal with me getting an education better than his.
You're young..and even tough you might not always agree with your family, you'll still need them (like it or not). Remember to have your OWN life, before becoming someone else' wife.
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