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female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:My partner and I met and started dating a year ago in May, we were very serious from the start and fell for each other quickly and spent all our time together. He asked if we could look for a flat together many times, I thought it was a bit soon but I was ready and he seemed ready so we moved in together after 5 months. We were extremely happy living together, we later planned our future together and bought furniture and everybody was so happy for us as we were a perfect match. Until a month ago I heard from a friend he had sex with his ex partner of 3 years in our home when I was away for the weekend with work confrence. I confronted his ex who confirmed this and when I asked him he denied it, until I got him and his best friend together and we got the truth from him after hours of him screaming and smashing the flat up, he says he did this to hurt her because she hurt him and he didn't enjoy it. But his ex's version is very different, she says that he went after her and invited her to the flat and seduced her. I don't understand why he would do this because we were so very happy in every way, and he always got so angry in the past when her name was mentioned saying he realy hated the sight of her and she was a crazy bitch who always ruins his life. I stayed at my mother's for a few weeks to clear my head, until he asked me to go back and I did because I wanted to sort things out. Weeks went by and every now and then I broke down, and asked why, and cried and was in such shock, and every time he would get realy angry and smash things up and shout and say that he did it to teach her a lesson, that he wanted to hurt her because she had been nasty to him in front of his friends and owed him money and that was the only way she would understand that he wasn't a weak person any more. I asked him to leave last week and I have found a shared house to live in because I just can't cope, I love him dearly and I know he is so very sorry, we are living apart but he wants another chance to prove I can trust him. Should I? X
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 March 2009): No. Simple as that. Breakups are never easy, but when the right man comes along, breaking up or staying together would never be a question.
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