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writes: I wrote this in a reply to a woman having difficulty getting over a lover.I think that there are alot of suggestions and ways you can tell someone but 9 times out of 10 we dont know enough essential information about that persons inner psychology to really tell them the right way.Instead I aim to use my knowledge of Neuro Science and Psychology to educate people about what goes on and why you feel what you feel and think what you think. because that is arming you with the tools and resources to be your own adviser. Sometimes by knowing how something works will be the only therapy you need.so here is my answer to someone wanting to know how to get over an ex or stop loving.I dont know a great deal of essential information about your life to tell you how your best getting over someone.So here is some science to help you understand what is going on in your head.Without too much complication. Imagine your emotions bieng a liquid which is essentially what they amount to inside your head.When you get to know someone. new pathways form in your brain from various parts to another. Your brain is designed to learn from memory. and bad experiences carry emotion which travel along these path ways.Have you ever wondered why you start liking a certain food, you eat it everyday and after a while you loose that emotional ambition to eat that food.Or maybe you go to they gym with good intentions and it fades off. or start a diet and loose motivation.Everyone gets interested in something for a short period of time and looses interest eventually. like fashions or crazes.This is because the neuro pathways become exhausted with using the same amount of energy to attach emotions to it so it defends its energy reserve by cutting off the happy chemicals or sad chemicals or whatever the emotion might be.Its like every memory has a cup. and in that cup is a designated amount of emotion for that particular object or person. (that explains why majority of people fall out of love or want to cheat)Knowing this bit of science about your brain can help you. because you now know you still have emotion in your cup. So use it up.Let your self cry. dont stop your self. cry and cry and cry until your content... you will find that when you are content you dont feel the emotion anymore. you feel numb to it.And when you become numb and dont care anymore......guess who comes running back... thats right... they always show up when you loose interest.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 June 2011): I have found that listening to songs that have lyrics that blow people off (e.g. Gloria Estefan's go away) over and over (repeat it at least 5 times or more a day) can help heal. Find a song that has lyrics close to your situation, preferably one that you like listening too independently of your emotional situation. Exercise and listen at same time and be in the moment in the song, connect your feelings to it.
Also, focus on flaws of person or damage they did to you. The pedestal fall can be fast when you realize the prince turned into a frog. When you see flaws, acts of damage on clear light (no anger), the "what was I thinking" mindset becomes clear.
Avoid love songs, they can detract from goal of forgetting.
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