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writes:So I just told his guy I've been seeing off and on for about 4 years that I'm breaking up with him for good and that I want to try to be with someone else. It's an online relationship, and we spent nearly every day talking, even if it wasnt in the boyfriend/girlfriend way.He's become way too dependent on me, and almost obsessive. When I told him I wanted to try something different he freaked out, begging me to give him another chance, and saying he was going to come here himself and make me give him another chance. He's talked about killing himself, and that without me he has nothing else in life.I'm scared that he actually is going to do something like get a plane to see me, or hurt himself, and I have no idea what to say to him. I've never broken up with someone like this before, and I'm already an overly sympathetic person, so it's hard to tell him flat out that I don't want to see him. How can I calm him down? Or what should I be doing? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 September 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI should put emphasis on "off and on" for 4 years. I wasn't into it as much as he was, and I'm too sympathetic with him and his at home situation so that's why it dragged out for this long, and probably why he freaked out so much when I wanted to end it for sure.
I convinced him not to kill himself, but he still makes me uneasy when we talk. His mom took him into a doctor for a psychiatric check up because she thinks he has aspergers. If I mention another guy he freaks out, and if I mention not talking to him anymore for his sake he freaks out. So this issue is very much still current, and help would still be appreciated if anyone is still reading this.
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