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writes: Iam 27 years old TS woman from the Philippines. I have a premanent job working in a big American company here and I can say I am ok financially and I am presentable. I met this Aussie guy online and he said he wanted to have a serious and exclusive relationhsip with him which i think is kinda crazy since we havent really met in flesh we just use to chat on cam. I just want to know how would I know if this guys is really serious. Can someone give me tips? Reply to this Question
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reader, truffles74  +, writes (14 November 2010):
I can relate as I met a lovely 42yr man from Melbourne on a dating site and we had been chating for a little over a week and wanted to be in a relationship while he was away as he works on a ship 6moths one month on and one month at home.. things were going really well the communication was great we talked via phone, email on the ship and via txt and then when he got home we would chat via skype and phone as he lived in another state to me.. we were arranging to meet and he had organized a trip to Thailand with a few mates from the ship. On his holiday things changed he wanted no contact whatsoever till he got back to Melbourne.. I did some investigating and he was seeing a girl on his facebook that lived in Thailand..my advice to you is dont commit to anyone till you meet in person and know more about them because they could be in a relationship or even married you just dont know.. this man swept me off my feet and I still have feelings for him even after the way he treated me.. dont make the same mistake I did and believe everything you hear.. if you think that being in a relationship with someone you have never met doesnt feel right than dont do it!!!! I can tell you that was my first thought and I wished now that I had taken my own advise than wasting 6mths of my life...
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 October 2010): I met my fiance on the internet. We were exclusive before we ever met, but I was able to spend hours a day with him online. The first time we met, which was about 6 months of being exclusive, it was like we already knew each other. I too thought meeting on the internet, and falling in love with someone youve never met face to face was impossible and rediculous. But it isnt. If you are willing to have an ldr, which isnt easy, then go for it. Communication is a must in a relationship, and in and ldr, all you can really do is talk, so you get to know the person very well. The only set back to have never met, is that you dont know if what you are being told is the absolute truth, and you do need to know if it is. I have been ldr for 3 years and recently got permission from his government to move to him, so it does work, and it can be amazing. You appreciate your partner alot more when you only get to see them a few times a year, you will never take him for granted. There are sites for ldr I think maybe you should read up on them a bit. When you are ready for a face-to-face meeting, make sure he comes to you, have a hotel, and make sure a friend knows where you are. Even though I trusted him, I didnt want to be nieve about the first meeting. I had never met anyone online before and I made my personal safety a key factor.
But I say go for it, what do you have to lose ?
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (29 October 2010):
 Am afraid that you cant really no for sure until you meet him face to face a few times and get to know this man, it sounds quite crazy to want this from someone that you have never met before, if you want to get to know this guy then arrange a meeting in a public place and take it from there but i advice just taking things slowely and getting to no eachother first
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reader, becky smith  +, writes (29 October 2010):
 hey, i understand where you're coming from. you may like him, but you said it yourself, your financially okay and you have good things going for you. i think if anything were too happen, you should meet in the flesh first. i know it may cost a bit too fly or what not? but you have too realise he may just be one of those guys who just want a laugh about and tells you he loves you and what not, just too get the ladies. or maybe he is in fact a decent guy. my friend recently met up with a guy over the internet, and they're going really well. they had been going out for about 6 months, before they met up, but they don't live as far apart as you and this aussie. i think maybe you should seriously have a think about it long and hard before you make and decisions you will regret. i hope i have sort of helped you? good luck with everything! x
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