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writes: I was recently talking to a male friend, who used to be a kind of FWB, so to speak. That started when we met up after getting back in touch on a social networking site. This casual thing lasted about 6 months or so, we saw each other maybe 5 or 6 times during that time. We last slept together nearly a year ago, now he has a girlfriend and at the time i found that hard to accept but i just had to accept it was over and that maybe we could be platonic friends.Now, back to the present: he recently told me out of the blue that he basically wants to fool around, although not in those words. I was a bit taken aback by this as he told me that us being friends was ok because he wouldn't cheat on his girlfriend, i believed him.A couple of nights ago he started a conversation online, just casual "how are you?" stuff, then, kind of out of the blue he said "so, you seeing anyone?" for some reason i lied and said i was, i then i asked why he was asking me that, and he said something along the lines of "you're an amazing girl and deserve someone nice" i didn't know what to say as he'd never said anything like that to me before, he'd only remarked about my appearance, "sexy" etc...I just said "thank you, i wasn't expecting you to say something like that" and he said he'd always thought i was amazing since we'd met up but because he lives quite a few hours away he knew a relationship wouldn't work so that's why we just had that casual thing and that he didn't just see me for the sex.He seems to be changing a bit towards me, when we used to talk online it was mostly just joking around or him flirting, but recently he seems to be trying to find out a bit more about me as a person, which has never happened before. He's started asking me what i like e.g. movies, hobbies etc...What do people make of this? A part of me thinks that he's just doing it because he wants to sleep with me but a tiny part is wondering if it's something else.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 October 2010): I did not say you WERE easy...I said you LOOK easy. There is a huge difference. I am sorry you took that as an insult it was meant to help you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 October 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionTo anonymous, i'm a lot of things but one thing i'm not is easy and if you want to throw around insults at least have the guts to not hide behind an anonymous post.
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reader, xanthic  +, writes (31 October 2010):
 Trust your first instinct, he's more than likely pretending to be more interested so you'll be more likely to sleep with him again. If he really wanted more than sex, he would've pursued a proper relationship with you the first time around. Drop him, he's just looking for some fun on the side.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 October 2010): Do not ever again in your life be fwb. Please, do it for me! It just makes a woman look bad and you get stuck in situations like this. But...my advice is for you not to ask him anything. Follow his lead, let him pursue you, if he does then you know he wants you. You already look easy, dont look desperate too
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 October 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni know i should ask him but i don't want to make a total idiot of myself. When he said i was an amazing girl, and told him i never knew he thought that way he said something like "so, did you just want sex from me" i said no that wasn't the case and i told him that's all i thought he wanted, that's when he said "no, but i live in *city* a relationship wouldn't work :("
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 October 2010): One of a couple of things could be going on here:
1. He kinda fell for you, and was never able to let go of you and the romantic feelings he developed, even though this was mainly FWB.
2. He doesn't want to seem like he's just after sex, so he is garnishing his intent with pretend interest in you...but really he just wants to fuck.
3. He held off on things with you before, because he was pursuing this other girl...now it isn't so great, and he wants you because he sees you as "better".
I'd like to believe #1, but maybe you should talk to him and find out his intensions. Dont assume he will hids whats going on...he may be wondering similar stuff about you.
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