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writes:Ok did I over-react this time? I was ignored by the boyfriend yesterday after I sent him text asking to clarify the some things about us - He NEVER responded from 9am Thursday till 2:30 this Afternoon - He said some people were coming over to watch the hockey game - He didn't invite me but his 10 yr old daughter did - I got there and he didn't stand up to say hello he didn't even say hello - Then the daughter asked when he was gonna make food - He said I would make food - I said no I wouldn't - They he just ignored me totally - when the game was over I went upstairs and said goodnight - thinking he would come up and talk with me - NOPEHe was talking to his daughter and I called from the upstairs phone and he still wouldn't talk to me - he said to his daughter - I thought she went home she needs to go home - Grrrr - So I got back out of bed and got dressed and went downstairs and took the phone and charger I was paying for and he started squawking about giving him his house keys - I said he will get his keys when I get my lawnmower and my passport tomorrow - He said the police would at my house to get the keys and he would be busy so he would have nothing to do with me tomorrowI cant believe this - I said to him so you are the one cheating and I am the villain cause I have had enough? I just wanted you to talk with me - and you have been hiding for over a day - He is not gonna make me feel bad about this - I busted my ass helping him get all that house done - for over a year! No projects at my house - he would not go wtih me to my moms to visit although I did countless things with his parents and kids.Very sad - just because he was too stubborn to talk to me about why I was so hurt and upset about him texting the xfiance and also logging into dating sites and being on drugs? I have to say - I didn't want it to end ugly at all - I do adore him - but not anymore - He treated me wrong - he was all about him I just kept thinking he would see it someday - but then when he sent that text asking me to marry him to my daughters phone knowing that it would upset her and then he told me he was half asleep - that was it! Sick sickPlease all of you re-assure me that I did the right thing - I just couldnt do it anymore - the lunches and wake up calls and taking care of his kids and in return he would make fun of my feelings and say I didn't need medication and that I wanted sex too much - SIgh - Now What?
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 May 2008): Thank you both for your Fantastic Encouragement! I am finding it difficult at best to keep going but I havent seen him since the 10th and it is the 23rd now! I dont want to see him - I miss the ending of the plans that we had but not the treatment -
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 May 2008): You did the right thing. He sounds like he was abusive and treated you like dirt.You make me proud to be female, honestly! Ah! The gumption! You're damned close to being a super-hero.The online dating...Even if he didn't meet up with anyone from on there, I'd still consider that AT LEAST emotional cheating.Contacting his ex? Emotionally cheating once again.The drugs is all lies he told you.What a terrible person he is. No wonder you left him! (That still makes me proud, saying that)
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reader, PeterPan +, writes (10 May 2008):
 Now what? You get yourself a REAL boyfriend... somebody responsible, responsive and reliable! If you were looking for a pat on the back for making the right choice to bail... well, here's your standing ovation! GOOD FOR YOU SEEING THINGS AS THEY REALLY ARE AND PUTTING THE MOST IMPORTANT PERSON -- YOU! -- FIRST!!Seriously, if he's not with-it enough to lead a drug-free life or hold a civilized conversation with his girlfriend, then he doesn't deserve that girlfriend!Congratulations for getting out before the Titanic sank! As one, let me tell you that there are quality guys out there. We seem to be buried in the mire that guys like your ex have created. Go find yourself somebody that appreciates and respects you!
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