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writes:OK down and dirty, I've only ever been in serious comitted relationships, 7 yrs and 3.5 yrs respectively. I've been single for a year now and have been trying to figure out the confusion of the dating scene, and meeting the run of the mill Yo-Yo's and psycho's, until last week. I've spent the last few days with a pretty cool chick.My problem is that she's kind of coming on in a rush, and I'm unsure if I'm ready to give up being single and doing my own thing after being basically "taken" for the last tenish years. I do enjoy spending time with her, and find myself thinking about her when she's not around, but I'm kind of feeling like I'm being pushed over the edge..metaphorically. I'm unsure of how to find a happy medium in this progression of events and I really, really don't want to hurt her feelings-but I'm feeling a little gunshy as it were and not racing to get mixed up in another long term relationship. We definitely need to talk about it but I need some clarity to figure out how to express myself. Sorry if this is a little long winded but any advice would be greatly appreciated.Major points-: I'm 28, and she's 21-She's not immature, but I can feel some kind of gap in there: I am extremely reticent to physically escalate the scenario (IE. no sex yet, I'm confused enough): I've listened to "Tears Don't Fall" by Bullet for my Valentine 15 times in the last two days, lol.: She's at home on semester break but there's tentative plans to have her come up and stay at my place on Sunday, yowza.Help?
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 December 2008): She presumably wants a relationship. You don't. Doesn't the solution speak for itself?
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