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writes:Will a guy ask a woman out who is separated? Or would he remain friends with her and wait until she was divorced? I mean, what if you really, really liked her and had strong feelings for her? She is sure of her decision and makes it clear that her marriage is over. She is even in the process of moving into her own place.Men, I would like to hear your opinion.What would be the worries you would have? What are the pro's and con's of dating a woman who is separated? And would they stop you from pursuing this woman? Would you wait for her to be free or would you start dating someone else who was available even if you liked the woman who was separated?Thank you!
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reader, doublejack +, writes (9 August 2012):
As a man who has been through a divorce, I personally would not ask a woman out in this situation. The reason is that I know first hand what kind of experience the divorce process is, and I do not feel someone going through that is in the right mindset to start a relationship. I would offer to be her friend and give her emotional support if all I wanted was friendship, but I do not see this in any way as the right time to pursue her romantically.If I viewed this woman as a potential romantic interest my approach would be different. I would stay in contact but keep a little distance and wait until the divorce was final and some time had gone by to see how things played out. "We must be our own before we can belong to another" -R.W. Emerson.My advice to a separated woman is do not worry about finding another man at this time. Instead focus on you. Find yourself, start doing the things you enjoy. Reinvest in you, whether that means joining a gym or picking up a new hobby you have been thinking about. Give yourself time to get through the divorce and recenter as an independent, happy woman. I know what it feels like facing a divorce, I had an urge to begin looking for a new partner right away too. I held off and I am so glad I did. I feel I would have rushed into another probably doomed relationship just because I felt I had to fill that hole, when in reality what I needed to do was realize that I can be happy all on my own.Best of luck!
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reader, Atsweet1 +, writes (7 August 2012):
 I have thought about this I have seen women with rings on and I know there probably not happy or perhaps seperated or on the rocks. I would try depending on feelings and and intimacy level we all have needs and desires. I would wait and see but not for too too long cause i could be missing other chances and not giving others a chance to have relations with me also cause Im on hold pause instead of free or on play
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